she bought me stuff to keep intouch with her, and now I have not herd from her for about a week. after she bought these things for me we would constantly talk or keep in touch, now nothing I am afraid that she's left again. I am hurting pretty bad and I was afraid of this happening. how would you deal with this?
2006-10-12 14:51:33 · 7 answers · asked by Lucky Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello,
Sorry to hear of how you are feeling, very understandable by the way.
Your mother has issues it sounds like, none of them your fault. You really have to come to grip with how your mother is and it not being your fault!
It is cruel of her to be this way, but we can not pick who our mothers are.....
How would I deal with this....to be honest I have no idea how I would handle this sort of situation, I bet not as well as you!!
2006-10-12 15:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw baby. I know how you feel. My father did the same thing to me. He brought me games, gave me money, His grandfather watch, and a lot of other things. He said that he would be back, that back turned into 6 years later. I constantly talked to him, like you did your mom. He stayed for about 2 weeks. When he put me to bed he disappeared. What I am trying to say is that you really need to talk to someone. I know a part of you feel like you are empty. The one thing that you should not do is blame yourself. Like I did. pray, and talk to counselors, aunts, and uncles. Anyone that is going to lead a ear to you. I kept dairies with a lot of notes to my father. Adults sometimes have problems that they face , their problems might be scary , or yet they do not know how to deal with them. when their are childern involved like you then they do not want to hurt you. there is a reason why she did what she did but it was not because of you.Be really strong and hold in their , god will make everything alright. if it is not now your mother will someday explain why she left to bring the pain and suffering to an end in your life. I think she will finally stand up and be the person you want now. Just give her sometime. Remember baby do not blame yourself.
wishing you the best of luck, you will be in my prayers.
2006-10-13 00:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by soawake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard thing for you to hear Shy one, but sometimes grown ups have problems that keep them from being good parents and being able to show you all the love they feel in their heart for you. It sounds like your mom is one of those people who can't be the mom you need and deserve. But I promise you this, no matter where she goes or does, she loves you very much and I hope one day, she puts her life together and can be the mom you want her to be. I hope you have people in your life to love you and give you lots of hugs. If you have a step mom-or some other important woman in your life, even if things are hard between you- Walk up to her right now and say, I know sometimes things aren't always great between us, but I am glad that are here to hug me when I am sad. And then throw your arms around her and hold on tight. Believe it or not, it will make you feel better. My heart aches for you and I will keep you in my prayers.
2006-10-12 21:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Trip S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so very very sorry, honey. Do you have grandparents? Keep close to them. What about your Dad, aunts, uncles, cousins.
Don't forget about G-d. G-d never abandons us or leaves us.
Your Mom is reacting to something that has nothing to do with you. She cannot help herself. She is sick and needs help. Perhaps she will be able to get help & heal herself. Send her prayers too.
Put G-d's healing light all around you, feel it protect and comfort you. Put that light all around your mom as well.
I'll be praying for you too.
2006-10-13 00:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be with people that care for you at this time of need.sometimes adults do things that is hurtful to them ;and also to the people that love them too.sounds like she;s got some issues rite now;but it;s nothing that you did.she doesn;t relize how she hurts you ;when she leaves again.just try not to let it stress you out. get on with your life and keep busy so you can kinda forget about her ;she;s not worth your love;if she keeps doin this to you...good-luck sweetie
2006-10-12 22:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my cousins ex boyfriend. His mother did the same thing... unfortunatly, it just led him down the path of becoming an alcoholic...
sorry to hear about what happened.
2006-10-12 21:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case that strue take some time to cope [no drugs in volved] and hire a privet investagator or usa people surch .
2006-10-12 21:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋