My boyfriend of over a year has lately been drinking alot, form what I know. He tells me when he is going to hang at his bestfriends house and hang out, no problem with that. but it seems as though they just drink all the time. This week he drank on sun. night, mon. night, tuesday night, wednesday night, and he will be drinking saturday night again he said. I brought up my concern for him and said hes not drinking alot and hes young, and hes not doing it in the morning and every second like an acholic would. i dont know, I feel as though hes drinking alot, and I told him I care . He denies it, what do you guys think, this wasnt just this week either it happens perriodically like they drink every fri. night and now its increasing to everyday of the week it seems. And he isnt abusive when he drinks, which doesn make it better, i just dont want it to turn out of hand. help, what should I say and do. Thanks.
2006-10-12 14:51:29 · 11 answers · asked by old 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may have some issues that HE needs to take care of.
This could have been happening before you arrived on the scene.
Perhaps you should give more thought to him being 'your boyfriend' at this time?
good luck
2006-10-12 14:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you or your boyfriend is. If he's a teenager, sometimes they go through stuff for a while.... my kids did (not every night though) - and neither of them drink now.... funny how that works...
I don't care what all the organizations say - a certain amount of drinking is within "normal" behavior and development.... HOWEVER......it sounds like he's borderline - out of control here. If he is drinking EVERY night and getting drunk every night - there IS a problem. You have a choice to stick around and watch him kill himself or just tell him your leaving. You can't change him. Might be a good idea to get out of the picture for a while - till he either comes to his senses or gets to a point for he has to go for help.
Believe me, someone who drinks all the time WILL eventually be sent to AA - either because of an accident, DWI, DUI, or disorderly conduct.... bank on it......
2006-10-12 14:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the problem you already think it is out of hand because you don't like it . i can promise you it will not get better if you don't put your foot down and make something happen . but be nice you did not say he had to stop nor should he have to ask him to use self restraint on the week days like maybe just one or two and the weekends . well that up to how you guys live on the weekends . don't let it go to far . it destroyed mine
2006-10-12 15:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by k dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I drink water as quickly as Ichronic too. whats up, it rather is in comparison to i pass to tug over to drink from a bottle or some thing. I make advantageous I shop my eyes on the line and drink with a straw. that's no longer a habit with me even with the incontrovertible fact that, i've got purely carried out it a pair of cases. So, get him a straw or some thing so he can shop his eyes on the line. He may additionally provide up doind it whilst warm espresso spills on him. no longer warm enuff to harm him yet warm enuff to destroy his shirt/ his day.
2016-10-02 06:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by wheelwright 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him fi he keeps on drinking hes going to loose u just remind him a lot n help him cuz i guess this is the time wen he needs you the most..true love can defete anything..so just b there for him n do the best cant..if time passed by n it didnt work then it wasnt meant to be..things happen for a reason...
2006-10-12 14:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need to love and to be loved.
Most of our issues could be solved fairly easily, if we have our loved one supporting us.
If you are hurt by a former ex, well you just need to get yourself up and start searching for someone who deserves your love.
Don't ever be shy .. that won't ever help you .. and you'll have lots to lose. Do what your heart tells you it's right.
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2006-10-12 14:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HMMMMMM , REASURE HIM OF YOUR FEELINGS AN REMIND HIM ( NOT IN A NAGGING KIND OF WAY ) OF HIS DAILY DRINKING .
AND UNPREDICTABLE ALCOHOLIC IS JUST THAT , NEVER KNOW WHEN TO SAY WHEN . ONE IS NEVER ENOUGH AND 1000 IS TOO MANY . COMMENT FOR THE FELLAS TO GET TOGETHER AN DRINK TILL SUN UP , BUT AFTER YEARS OF THIS YOU LEARN " HEY . NOT KEWL " IT IS HARD FOR ANY PERSON TO ADMIT THAT ARE ALCOHOLIC SO TREAD LIGHTLY BUT FIRMLY . LOVE SHOULD CARRY YOU BOTH THRU . AND MAYBE AA MEETINGS .
2006-10-12 14:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have communicated your concerns to him. he can be a social alcoholic which is just as bad continue to talk with him and if you need help i would contact alonon they are wonderful and give you the support and some suggestions of what to do.
2006-10-12 15:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find you another b/f,you will have no fun or no life with this drunk,I think you already know that,you deserve better go get it.
2006-10-12 14:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to check if he is the right man, if it every day it will be every time .......
2006-10-12 15:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by tiger_loay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋