How can you say you love somebody when you only have deeper feelings that deal with sex
2006-10-12 14:24:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lust is just one of the many components of love, but make no mistake, it IS a part of the thoughts, which are feelings, that make up love.
Other things you might feel or think about someone you "love" include pride (he's at the top in his field, has won many awards, has invented something amazing, has written a popular book) respect (he's honest, stands up for what is true, knows what he wants and doesn't stop until he gets it), admiration (he works hard, makes money, is educated), social attraction (he's fun, he's smart, he's witty, he has lots of friends and knows how to party).
You can only love someone as much as you love yourself, and people are always attracted to someone who reminds them of themselves and what they value. If you find that all you have in common with someone is lust, then perhaps that's all you think you're worth, your body and sex is all you have to offer someone. Let me tell you, you are a good person and you deserve more than that.
2006-10-12 14:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why it is so important to get to know the person before you have sex with them. Once you have sex with them it becomes harder to remove them from your life if you spot something early in the relationship that you don't like about them.
Having sex, blinds you from seeing a lot of wrongs in someone life, which is OK when you are married but when single and trying to find the right person, better think twice.
2006-10-12 21:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question! :)
I think you just have to look at the sexual relationship as "just sex". Try not to be so intimate with the person if he/she is not
willing to be involved in a commited relationship exclusively.
However, there are times when one person is not ready for
one to one relationship, but over time sex brings two people
closer with intimacy, so it ends up being a one to one relationship. If you have feelings for someone that you have sexual relations with, maybe you should let him/her know how
you feel. This gives the other person involved the chance to make
a decision whether or not they want to continue the sexual relationship. By letting the other person know how you feel, it may save your heart from breaking later on down the road.
2006-10-12 21:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy...choose abstinence. No diseases, no guilt, no confusion. If you love the guy and want to spend the rest of your life with him, what better gift could you give him than a you that nobody else has known in that way?
And hopefully he's done the same for you....
2006-10-12 21:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "If I never had sex with this person ever again would I still be with them"? If not then it's just lust. Love is different then sex, it's loving who they are, sex or not.
2006-10-12 21:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to distinguish between lust and love. Lust will evaporate after a few weeks/months. Love doesn't evaporate, as quickly.
2006-10-12 21:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You are merely obsessed with him in terms of sex. That's not love, tht's lust.
Get over it before it hurts you.
2006-10-12 21:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a female its really complicated to separate your feeling from sex. i know its not fair but we are not men. we can't do the stuff they do. we are made differently.
2006-10-12 21:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and lust have nothing to do with each other
2006-10-12 21:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋