2006-10-12 14:12:32 · 19 answers · asked by SANDRA Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you should not ASK him not to go. You should, however, TELL him that next time he goes, he won't be coming back to you afterwards, as you will be busy finding someone who respects you and your wishes.
2006-10-12 14:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are in a committed relationship and are not dating anyone else, then you have the right to ask him not to attend these bars. Now, that doesn't mean that he will agree to this. Afterall, you are only dating, no ring on your finger. Dating is meant to allow you to see different people and decide what qualities you are looking for in a lifetime partner. Maybe he doesn't have the qualities that you want in a lifetime partner;maybe you should be grateful that you are not married to a man that would frequent these kinds of places. On the other hand, if he honors your request and stops this behavior because he respects and cares for you, then he sounds like a keeper to me. Time will tell...
2006-10-12 14:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Ask Him NOT To Go... Simply Tell Him Your Not Comfortable With Him Going... If He Insists On Going Still Ask Can You Tag Along.. Strip Joints Aren't Just For Guys...
Don't Be Worried... No Girl Would Sleep With Him... I'm Not Sure About Other Countries But In Australia, Strippers DONT Sleep With Their Clients...
2006-10-12 14:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is a stipper bar...That would help me answer the question.
Just kidding. I know you mean stripper bar. Why don't you ask to go with him...then tell him not to go. However, there is always that chance that he will start lying to you and telling you he doesn't go and he really does.
2006-10-12 14:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should try to go with him one time..And you will find out that its not bad as you think..I personally think its a waste of money..
A lot of men use the strip clubs to have a different scenery..You are either okay with it or you are not..I wouldn't consider this action to be cheating.By the time, he gets to you, he is already pump up and ready to go to fu c k you like a crazy wild man..
2006-10-12 14:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex- (husband) used to go to the stripper bars....I didn't like it, but he informed me he wasn't "doing" anything. I had the chance to go to the local equivalent for women...and he got all bent out of shape. I pointed out I wasn't "doing" anything, either. Suddenly, he stopped going.
Frankly, I think it shows a certain level of disrespect for the relationship you're in.
(*shrug*) If it bothers you that much, and you can't deal with it...you need to tell him when he outgrows the need for it...to give you a call. If you're still available, you'll consider going out with him again. Then you need to end it.
2006-10-12 14:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a choice he needs to make.. if he chooses to go to strip bars and you are not happy about this then leave him and move on. have you tried to be honest about this with him or just sort of told him you the bars?
2006-10-12 14:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how often does he goes? if its infrequently (once every 3 months or so), I wouldnt give him a hard time -- guys just like the visual pleasure of looking at a woman's body. If its much more than that, and it bothers you, then you have to decide if this guy is worth it. you will NOT be able to change his attitude.
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2006-10-12 14:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by revecanadien 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does it bug you,, he goes to see what guys like..he probably would go if he got to see it at home and maybe got a lapdance once in a great while.
2006-10-12 14:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't ask him to stop either join him or go to places that have male dancers could help with you guys sex life.
2006-10-12 14:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋