what am i gonna do....?

Question

i like this girl, im too shy to talk to her and tell her i like her,im shy anyways, so i have asked my freind to tell her, but today in class when he was about to a grabbed him so he would stop and i freaked out..... i do this every time i tell him to tell her or run away beassicly when he starts to....

i cant talk to her myslef...how am i gonna get over this?

well. i CANNOT force my self to talk to her... i start to feel...er...the word could be awkward...and don't do it.........


and i give her hints by looking at her.....an di know she noticed.....

Answer 1

Alright...I wrote the response to the question last night...I understand...you're so nervous it's crippling...mind boggling crippling...she always looks at you and you think she's constantly judging...you make eye contact look away and HOPE she's gonna come talk to you instead...you even get a little nervous around her friends (even when she's not around) b/c you know they talk to her and you don't want to do something stupid to where they tell her...you get butterflys REALLY bad when she's around b/c you know you should talk to her and you know that she knows you should talk to her, but you don't know what to say...I understand...been there done that. (But don't lie the feeling is exilerating! and you kinda like it...thats why you're here.) (sp)

I had two great older brothers who told me what Im telling you now. And I decided that I just had to stick my neck out...you can never succeed if you dont ever try.

First of all, she should be flattered, and she probably is...there are millions of women/girls out there who would love to have a man feel the way you do about her...about them. (hope that makes sense) I'm jumping to conclusions here, but I assume you're still in high school and so is she...if so she hasn't had much experience talking to guys either so I PROMISE she is just as nervous...I cannnot stress that enough. Therefore she isn't going to come up and talk to you....It's our job. I agree sometimes it sucks, but it's just a fact of life.) It's good that you're nervous...it means you have a lot of respect for her (as you should.)...it means you want her to respect you. It also means you care what she thinks.

You are going down the right track...you're heart is in the right place. You have taken the correct first step. (when so many people don't...) Now all you have to do is talk to her and it will all come so naturally b/c obviously you care so much (you've been posting about her for about awhile if memory serves.) If your friend has been telling her u like her etc...she already knows you like her...she is just waiting for you to come talk to her!!!!! She is just gonna be so happy that you came and finally talked to her, you will be golden!!! (If you wait too long she's gonna start getting annoyed.)

It's like diving in a cold pool...it sucks right away...you're not sure what to expect before you get in...not sure how cold it really is...judging by the toe you stuck in you think it's gonna be horrible, but once you just dive in, it's not so bad after all. (wow Im rambling.)

This might be a little off topic, but if you really think about it, it might be the most relevant thing I say... When you talk to someone the words coming out of your mouth only account for 25% of the message...the other 75% of the message comes from tone of voice and your body language. The words are just words....everything else gives it context.

I'm telling you ...it sounds lame, but take the three things you know about her and think of a couple of questions about each subject...then, I don't know if you see her alone ever, but just say, "hey wanna eat lunch with me today?" or if you cant get her alone and you don't wanna talk to her infront of her friends. (I totally understand that.) say something like "I see you walking to class everyday this way...you should try this way...it's a lot more seanic (sp)" and then walk her to class that way. LOL ok thats a little lame, but say something funny...I'm dumb enough to be able to pull that line off, b/c like i said earlier...the words only make 25% of the message. If you smile big and don't act too friggin cocky (which I don't think you could b/c you're so nervous) She'll hear you say "hey wanna walk with me so we can talk?" Then bust out the three thing you know about her talking points...

Being nervous isn't a bad thing...being TOO nervous is...but you know she likes you...she knows you like her...all you have to do is talk to her...

I know it sounds tough, but it's only bad right at first.


Take your friend out of this...he has already served his purpose...he has delivered the message...regardles if he actually told her or not . (the 25% thing again) The ball is your court now...


GOOD LUCK YOUNG BUCK...

PS if you wanna send me three things about her I'll write you ten open ended questions to ask...(better than the lameness above lol) After that I promise you will have found some things in common to where the discussion would come naturally after that...


Also re-read ther note from last night...

CANNOT stress to take your friend out of this...it's you and her...

Answer 2

Man come on girls like a real man with guts, if you want to tell her first be friends with her and talke about any thing and after some time she may like you and she may tel you her self and if she did not you will know the right time :)

Answer 3

Don't ask your friend to tell her. I don't know about girls out there, but to me, it would be awkward if a guy told me that his friend liked me. It just sounds fake. No offense. Try dropping hints. My guy friend likes me, and he's shy. So he started dropping me hints. At first, he gave me these loooong looks, then he got physical. He gave me hugs, and now they're pretty meaningful. He's even kissed me on the cheek. So just give yourself a little shove.

Answer 4

Start out slow and just talk to her about little things and say hello and things like that. It'll be easier to work up to talking about liking her once you've already established some sort of talking relationship with her. Good luck.

Answer 5

We all need to love and to be loved.

Most of our issues could be solved fairly easily, if we have our loved one supporting us.
If you are hurt by a former ex, well you just need to get yourself up and start searching for someone who deserves your love.
Don't ever be shy .. that won't ever help you .. and you'll have lots to lose. Do what your heart tells you it's right.

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Answer 6

well buddy i m having the same problem ....but its like with some difference.....i have never told that guy (i like him since i was 10.currently i m 17) and i dont have guuts to tell him today also....but its like.....dont lose hope....write her a letter slip it in her bag....or book....well what i did is i love him still....but its like we r not that good friends thats y....just try to be kind to him and try to be there when he needs me......one day he will recognize it by himself.....if ur love is true...but u dont waste time like that.....tell her by letter or mail her.......

Answer 7

just think positively about your self. and if it doesn't work out with this girl, you'll always have a chance to be with any girl you want.
just have a confident, and you'll win

Answer 8

well, my advise 2 u is don't be shy...show ur fellings for this girl let her know how you fell......and stop making ur friends do it for you....! :-)

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Answer 9

Step up an be a man . an be your self.