Call Waiting Rude or Selfish?

Question

Thank You everybody who helps me with this matter. I am currently involved in a relationship right now, and as we speak we are at a dissagreement on the subject of clicking over while she is on the other line. I have called my her on many occasions only to hear the phone go to voicemail. I know she is on the other line because of how long it takes to go to voicemail. I finally asked her why she does not click over and she says does not like to put the other person on hold. However she will put me on hold to take another call. I told her I felt that was inconsiderate she feels it is not. Am I being selfish for wanting her to click over and aknowledge my call? or is she being incosiderate. Thank You for your help.

Answer 1

it sounds to me like if she were being honest, she would tell you she is afraid of conflict. does she click over to talk to you when things are going well? just a thought. i think that if i were you i would feel pretty bad too. do you tell her it hurts your feelings? maybe try opening up to her and instead of calling her inconsiderate, tell her that it really hurts you when you feel that she is unavailable to you. maybe this will soften her heart a little and make her more open to resolving conflict. it can be tough when someone doesnt want to talk to you. hang in there.

Answer 2

I personally think that it is selfish and inconsiderate of her, because it seems as if she doesn't mind putting you on hold to take that other call...but yet when it's you she doesn't even feel the need to answer because it's rude to put people on hold but not rude to ask you to hold while she clicks over...personally thats a bunch of bullsh*t. Sweetie you need to make it very clear to her that you feel this way because you're not just anybody, you're the person she's in a committed relationship with. Ask her who the hell it is on the other line that is so damn important that she has to click over right away and answer to instead of just letting it go to voicemail like when she does when you call. You need to let her know that it bothers you that she puts you on the back burner and puts others first, that you don't feel as if she is being fair or considerate of your feelings. And see what she has to say about it. Honestly if she acts like she doesnt care or like it doesnt matter and isnt a big deal then she doesnt deserve you or care about you and you're feelings....and you deserve better.

Answer 3

No you're not being selfish. The least she could do is answer when her own boyfriend calls. She should just automatically put you before anyone else. Have a talk with her and see if she can bend a little.
Personally, I think call waiting is one of the rudest things ever invented. "Hold on, let me see if someone more interesting is on the other line..."

Answer 4

There are two sides to this coin. I, personally think it is very rude to have call waiting and put someone you are talking to on hold. To me, it means that they are looking for the better deal. The most important person you should be talking to and listening to is the one on the other end of the phone, not the beep. If someone did that to me on a continual basis, I would wonder what the heck was going on. Good luck.

Answer 5

I'd say inconsiderate unless you are calling her like 100 times a day. I hate call waiting personally--I have it and god forbid my boyfriend calls me and I don't answer the phone. He will go nuts....

Answer 6

Well, I'd say if she is going to switch over while she is on the line with you to get the other call, she should do it with everyone. Otherwise, she should just save her money and cancel her call waiting service.

Answer 7

Humans deserve equal standard courtesy. You deserve her politeness as well.