My husband and I adopted two little girls from India and China. I am pregnant with our third child due in April. We haven't told the girls yet, they're quite young 3 and 4. Anyway I'm wondering if you all have any suggestions on age appropriate books that explain pregnancy and adoption and why the new baby looks different and all those topics in a sensitive manner.
2006-10-12 13:50:10 · 3 answers · asked by greenkangaroo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I agree not to make a big deal out of it. If you go out of your way to point out differences, then you're going to alienate your adopted children. At such a young age, chances are they are going to accept your new baby and be utterly excited.
If they do start to ask questions as to why the new baby looks different than they do, explain that they had different mothers in an age appropriate manner. Given they that are from two different backgrounds already, I don't think it will bother them at all. They've probably already realized that not all members of their family look alike.
Congrats on the new baby as well as your adopted ones!
2006-10-12 14:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sativa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it really would matter. Just treat them the same as usual. Don't try to make them feel different. They are so young right now that I really don't think they will feel all that different than your child. Just keep on accepting them as they are.
2006-10-12 20:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Let sleeping dogs lie and don't open Pandora's box. Just love everyone and they'll be happy. They really don't need to know at these early ages, at all.
2006-10-12 20:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋