Okay, so I've really liked this girl (who's a good friend of mine) since like 8th grade, and I worked up the courage to ask her to homecoming. She said sure, but then the next day she called me and was like, "I don't think we should go to homecoming together because..." and then rattled off some excuses. But later I found out that my friend had asked her the next day (he didn't know I had asked her) and so she said no to me so that she could go with him. I'm really upset about this, but I want both of them to be happy. I'm trying to get over it, but my mind keeps on wandering back to them. How do I end this pain?
2006-10-12 13:41:04 · 20 answers · asked by K.M. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask another girl to go with you and have fun!
2006-10-12 13:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could either turn this around and think of ways to get mad at them both or you could be happy for them. It's going to hurt but at least you care about this girl and your friend. That's a very good thing..espicially in a guy because a lot of guys will just date girls for sex not because they actually care about the girl. I think you should stay friends with the girl and maybe one day it'll be more than that. And maybe you'll find another girl you like and go out with her
2006-10-12 13:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very young still. You'll get over it eventually. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If it helps for you to know - everybody goes through that kind of pain in their life. It's like growing pains. We live through it, and eventually onto something else. Eventually you will meet somebody else that you like better. It's hard to believe that now - but you will. Some people are more sensitive to these situations. Girls do that all the time to guys & guys do it all the time to girls. Just try to keep your mind occupied on your hobbies & keep busy. Time is the only thing that will heal your broken heart.
2006-10-12 13:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by yellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem. If you don't do something about the pain you will be concerning yourself with it for a long time. The best way is to put space between you and that person. Or, the best way to get over someone, is to get under someone, is there anyone interested in you that you can try yourself with? Occupy yourself with whatever hobbies you can, and whatever friends you can that won't talk about the object of your pain much. The last option I can give you, is that time heals all wounds.
2006-10-12 13:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by TwilightWalker97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that happen to you, I guess take it as an experience. At least you had the courage to ask her. I think it's better for you to find another girl who would like you because she obviously did not like you and she is not worth it. Maybe ask another girl to homecoming or go with friends.
2006-10-12 13:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that the true culprit is the girl. You should never let a girl ruin your friendship with your friend. There will be other girls, trust me. At the end of the day, act like the bigger person, b/c if you show weakness you will look worse. If you have to keep something, you have to keep your pride and composure. Trust me on this, you don't want to be with a wishy washy girl b/c she will screw you over later on anyways.
2006-10-12 13:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to ask someone else to the dance and keep busy so you don't stop thinking about the girl who changed her mind. If she is that shallow then she is not good for you as a mate. Wish her and your friend the best and find a girl who really wants to be with you.
2006-10-12 13:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had already accepted with you, but then changed her mind when someone who she perceived to be better came along, you're better off without her. Trust me. If you got together with this girl, you'd be in for a world of heartache. It may suck now, but you got off easy.
As for how to end the pain, just move on. There are plenty of other women out there, many of them more worthy of your attention than she is. I know, easier said than done, but it's the best way.
2006-10-12 13:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Chris S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's really horrible manners on her part. The ultimate fun would be if your friend stood her up; she would learn not to play with other people's feelings. In the meantime, see if you can find a date from another school--someone really hot, to take to homecoming.
2006-10-12 13:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is know easy way to end the pain ,your feeling are hurt and you have every right to be hurt,not much you can do but try and move on and be happy. I know every says it but it's true time does heal. Good luck
2006-10-12 13:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gonna hate this answer, trust me, all you can do is ride it out, find something to take your mind off it, dont ask one of her friends just to get back at her, it never works, just ride the pain, let it pass, and do things that make you happy, or take up a lot of your concentration.
2006-10-12 13:43:53 · answer #11 · answered by renniks90210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋