I have a male friend that I like and I made the first move and we went out about two weeks ago. The date went well and we agreed to meet again. However, I emailed and suggested that we meet and he returned my email that he will call me. He never did call. Then, I emailed him again about meeting again this week and he never did respond. At this point, I assumed that he is not interested but do not want to tell me. So, I think that he did not like the fact that I actually made the first move.
The guy that I like is older than me. He is in the mid 30s and I am in my late 20s. I am not sure if it is because he is older and may have a more "old school" mentality...
What do you guys think? Should I have never asked him out in the first place? I really like him but I am thinking of moving on because I think that it is just courtesy to call or email if you said that you would...
2006-10-12 13:31:53 · 12 answers · asked by shakira2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately you may be right about his interest level, but that doesn't mean all hope is gone. Give him time to ponder the situation and decides what he wants. A relationship cant be 100% if both people aren't in it for the right reasons. I think you should play it off with him, as though you never went out, and still retain the friendship as it was before you went out with him. That way he can see what he could have. Don't pester, you will scare him off!! Be cool and casual, make him want you. If it's meant to be, then it will be!! good luck...
2006-10-12 13:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by EllieMae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not interested. You made the first move, went out, you emailed and he said he would call. That should have been the end of it. Now he probably thinks you are chasing him. Don't contact him again. Next time let the guy pursue you. It's much nicer.
2006-10-12 13:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, I give you props for making the first move on your male friend...that takes guts! ;)
Unfortunately, I think because you contacted him a couple of times after your date and he hasn't called or e-mailed you back are signs that he's not interested in moving forward. It could be the age thing, I'm not sure?
No, I think it's good you asked him out in the first place, because if you didn't, you would have always wondered, "what could have been?"
I would definitely move on! :)
2006-10-12 13:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by ☼shine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your behavior describes someone who is too needy/desperate and this would cause a guy to run away quickly. No one wants to feel smothered in a relationship so give him a chance to contact you instead of continuing to pursue him. I don't think your age is an issue so practice a little patience and see what happens, unless you have already pushed so hard that he may not want to see you again even if he actually liked you.
2006-10-12 13:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it mattered asking him or not asking him. I don't think you made the wrong move. You want to be comfortable with the person you're with. If you acted your normal and it made him uncomfortable forget all about him, he's a bad match.
Sounds like he's not super interested but wants to keep you on the hook just in case.
2006-10-12 13:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let things happen... Were you acting extremely eager or desperate?, I mean that's the only thing I can think of that would make me not want to return a call to someone I went on a date with.
2006-10-12 13:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on, If he wants to go out again i think he will call. I wouldn't push it. he may want to be the one to ask you out the second time. As far as if you should have asked him out to start with, I see nothing wrong with that, You put yourself out there by doing that, That just shows that you are intrested. But I would let him ask me out the next time... Good Luck too you!!!
2006-10-12 13:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by mstycain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest not contacting him anymore. The more you contact him, the further he is going to run. Give him time to decide what it is he wants, and if he responds to you then great. If not, he has to live with the fact that he was a jackass and didn't get back in touch with you.
2006-10-12 13:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by P R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not return your call one week after the date, move on.
2006-10-12 13:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey move on if he did call or resonp he doesn't want you as mean as that is or he got amensia i would forget casue 2 weeks long time
2006-10-12 13:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋