I've had one for over a year, we always give each other mixed signals on what we want as in terms of seriousness, but of course, me being a girl, I've gotten really attached to him. If he was tired of me by now, he would've ended things along time ago right? He obviously likes me for some reason correct? Has anyone had a serious relationship come out of such a thing? It's harder for guys to become attached right? I need to talk to someone, guys & girls with experience....you can even message me if ya want. Thanks :)
2006-10-12 13:29:42 · 14 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was with one. No strings. Both saw who we wanted. We worked together. Fun. Great friends. 4 years. If none of us had anyone on any night, one would pop over or both would go home together from clubbing etc etc. She's married now. Miss her. Although we both knew this was only casual, I still cared for her & her well-being. If she didn't get married, we would still be having fun together today.
2006-10-12 13:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm not saying that booty calls are a bad thing. They work well for some people and in some instances. However, guys don't end something that's working for them or in their favor! Think of it this way, you're there giving him exactly what he wants, when he wants it and there are no strings attached. Why would he leave if it's satisfying him? He wouldn't. As far as these mixed signals. Guys will say/do just about anything if they think their "perfect" scenario is about to end so he may just be acting like he can't live without you so he doesn't lose out on what HE wants.
Women give themselves with their heart so yes, it's easy to get attached because we think/love with our hearts and not our head.
2006-10-12 20:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by perkadittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The possible reason he likes you is the casual,no demands fun that you provide for him.It's called friends with benefits.If he did want more,I assume it would have moved to the next level.I don't know of serious relationships developing from such things,but I am familiar with some that have been ruined by being an unsuspecting partner in one.My experience is that something worth lasting won't start out as this relationship did,and will involve more communication.Wish I could tell you what you want too hear!Good Luck!
2006-10-12 20:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry to tell you but a guy can enjoy having sex with a girl and have absolutely no romantic feelings for her. As women we can never understand that, but that's how guys are.
But to answer your question, I had a two-year relationship come out of a booty call thing. The guy didn't like me in that way at all in the beginning, but he was happy to use me for sex. I found out later he was even "lusting" after other girls and talking to exes and going on dates with other girls while I was just his booty call. But after about three months of that he asked me to be his girlfriend, so I guess something must have changed.
Now you say you have been his booty call for over a year. So maybe it's time for you to ask him if he wants to make it something more. If he doesn't by now, he probably won't ever. And it's fair for you to know where you stand so that you can find someone who is going to give you what you really want.
2006-10-12 20:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay. First, yes if he was tired of the sex he would have been gone but that doesn't mean he's attached or wants a relationship. He doesn't necessarily have to like you but he obviously enjoys the sex.
Now I've had several serious relationships from "sex buddies". So yes it can happen. I am not sure with your situation because it's been going on for a while! Unfortunately, females always fall quickly and then we get our lil hearts broken.
If I were you, I'd tell him how I feel and see what he says. He won't know unless you tell.
Good Luck!
2006-10-12 20:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by brooklynchyck808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a garunteed lay that's why he keeps you around. Have you ever told him no?
If there were no rules laid down at the beginning of this casual sex relationship then you were doomed (or vice versa) to get your feelings hurt. I had a booty call/friends with benefits and I was the dumb one. Even though I said I could handle just being sex buddies I let my heart get a little too attached. It lasted well over a year but its over now. I just couldn't go sleep with him, then get up and get dressed and walk away like everything was just kosher.
2006-10-12 20:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have actually started a relationship out of a booty call agreement.
When 'E' and I started, we had both come out of really rocky relationships, and we were hurt and vulnerable. I initiated we be exclusive hump buddies. After about two months of this, I woke up one day, and his kids were there. He introduced us and from then on, things became more and more serious, and more and more complicated. A little bit of jealousy started on his part (which confused me, as we were just booty call) We would end up not going out with friends and just staying home together talking. Well as things progressed, we became more and more like and everyday couple, with out the title of boy/girlfriend. One night he came over to my place, and I had company, one of whom was an ex-booty caller. Ex booty man brought up the past, and 'E' got pissed and left. So I went to his house, left my company, and that's when he finally declared 'Ida that's it, I can't handle it (at this point I thought all was over) I guess you'll just have to tell your other boyfriends not to talk like that in front of me, because You're mine. I love you'
It was straight out of a movie. We stayed together for 2 years after that. It didn't last though.
But to answer your question, yes I have gone on to something more serious with a booty call.
2006-10-12 20:43:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ida B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in there once. it is hard if you both are sending mixed signals. what i did is i sat down one nite invite my booty call over for dinner one nite and told her how i felt. she said she felt the same way so we started dating. the only thing i regret is that i waited 6 months to tell her.
he may not have feelings for you he might just be staying around becuase he cant get any other booty. you just might be the best booty he has ever gotten and he doesnt want to give it up yet. so sit down one nite and talk to him tell hime how you feel. you cant keep things bottled up. if you do nothing will ever come about it.
hope all works out.
2006-10-12 20:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by StormyGuy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as u r still willing to have sex with him no strings attached why would he leave? As women we make the mistake of assuming that men have feelings...they don't. They seperate love/feelings and sex easily. As women we also read into to things and make more out of them than what they are (i.e. he did this so it must mean this) With men its all face value, no surprises no hidden meanings. If u want more say something, don't wait on him.
2006-10-12 20:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had a friend with benefits for 8 years. When we first got together I was totally attracted to him but he wanted to have many casual relationships which was ok. now i don't want a relationship with him but i sometimes get the feeling he might want things to change but he never makes a move toward it. sometimes guys just want a girl around but no responsibility for them
2006-10-12 20:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋