Ok, I've known this girl for about 7 years altogether, since I was 17 and she was 10. The entire time I was with my girlfriend/wife/ex/wife. I've only really known her really well for about 3 years. We hung out for about a year solid (while I was married, me and my wife's mutual friend when she was about 16 and I was 23. For that whole year, she was deeply in love with me. She has been gone for 2 years now due to personal issues in her life that forced her to move cross country. The last thing she ever said to me was "I love you", and I told her I didn't feel the same way. about 1 year later, my wife and I divorced, and I have since reallized that, I am and truly was in love with her also. She is now 18 and I am 25. She is moving back here for good in december, and the suspence is killing me. According to all of our mutual friends, they think that she is probably still in love with me, but I don't know, after all Its been almost 2 years. So what I'm asking is, what do you all think?
2006-10-12 13:25:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*sigh* I said SERIOUS answers. Most of you were, so disregard this: I am not a pervert, I am willing to put my heart out there even if it means being hurt, I am not desperate, I was not hanging out with a 10 year old (she was my friends neighbor, I knew OF her would be closer to the truth), I have dated others my own age, and older and younger, and I know that age has very little to do with individual relationships. By the way, she has also had relationships since me, but nothing serious. She already knows my maritial situation, thats how I found out she's moving back down because when my friend talked to her on the phone she told her about it. She already knew about it, somehow I don't know, and thats when she said she was moving back down here in december. And yes, I was her first and only love, according to her. I am not trying to be perverted or neurotic, but damnit I have genuine feelings for her and I really am In love with her, so believe it. NOW, can we try this again PLEASE?!?
2006-10-12 14:31:58 · update #1
gee this sounds like a frickin soap opera. so im telling u, go for it! if shes loved u then she loves u now! go for it. if she is what you desire, you must seek her and tell her you love her. im sure shes been thinking about you.
2006-10-12 13:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by Charnelle aka Nelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was probably deeply hurt and disappointed when you said you didn't love her. She may not take you seriously or she could have been going through a phase or she could take your feelings and stomp on them. Life is about taking chances, I think you should go for it. Let her know how you feel and fill in the gaps to any questions she has. If you truly love someone it never dies you just no longer act on it.
2006-10-12 20:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure she will still feel the same way about you. She is probably still in live since she is moving back. Have u talked to her? Try talking to her more and finding out where her head is at
2006-10-12 20:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do we know what love is at that age of 16. i think its a lust thing. she could say that to many a guy being so young. do you have anything in common with this teenager? your 25 why not find an older women that knows what she wants and how to do it? good age is 29-31
2006-10-12 20:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can hang out, talk about how life has been and if she mentions any other guy who means more than a friend then you know she has moved on but if she doesn't. Like she mentions guys but they don't really have anything going, like guy friends then maybe there is still hope for you guys.
2006-10-12 20:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by godfathermock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AHHHH!!! I'm going to drink Budweiser and commit Sepuku right here on the floor!!! How bizzare!! Eww well just think your what 7 years older then her well thats not too bad she;s really young though... Well I've always heard get there before they hair does!
Good Luck
-Shwing!
2006-10-12 20:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u shud just to up to her and ask her if she still feels the same way about u and express ur feelings toward her. U never no . She might still love u. If she doesn't, atleast all ur feelings will be out there so she can consider her options. GOod Luck!!!
2006-10-12 20:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what were you doing as a 17 year old hanging with a 10 year old? that's wrong dude. You need to leave the girl alone and let her find a guy her age.
2006-10-12 20:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unacquainted love is a hard issues to deal with...
are you willing to put your heart out there to possibly get trashed but her rejection?
Put your real feeling out there and ask her not to hurt you as badly as you know that you hurt her. If she loves you or ever loved you she will understand and let you down easily if she does not want you....
but if she does still want you tell her that you will try never to hurt her again!
2006-10-12 20:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by crissymm5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a shot, u won't know what will happen if you don't!!
I think she most prob will love you, even though it has been 2 years the spark may still be there when u see eachother again.
Good Luck
2006-10-12 20:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by hunybuny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get real. This little girl had a crush on you, a significantly older person.
Let her have the experience of a healthy relationship with someon her own age.
2006-10-12 20:29:12 · answer #11 · answered by asperens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋