i had an ex a while back. probably about a yr ago. when we broke up it was because i was going crazy and he didnt wanna cause me anymore pain. but leaving me was not what we wanted but it seemed like the only solution. its been a yr and we still /lovelike each other. we hardly talk but when we do(privately) we say we still love each other and say how we miss each other. there hasnt been a single day in the past yr that i havent thought about him and i know its been the same with him.
i want to get back together but he refuses because he says he will hurt me again. he says he doesnt deserve me and hasnt had a gf since me and i know he still cares about me because i see it in the way he looks at me and talks to me. he says he wont start dating again until he "grows up." i understand that he wants to be more mature and i do agree with him.. but i want to be with him now.. am i being selfish? and what do i do? please help.
2006-10-12 12:54:38 · 13 answers · asked by KikkomanLady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just leave him be and find somebody else
2006-10-12 12:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advice would be to just be there as a friend and help him to mature. As you do that, help him to realize that he does deserve you, and you him. It may take some time because he is carrying around a lot of guilt because he did hurt you. In a way though, that's a good thing, only because it proves that he does have a conscience, and he does care for someone other than himself, which this day and age is a rare thing. He sounds like a good guy, just stick by his side as a friend for the time being, and when the time is right, you just might get what you desire! I hope this helps, honey. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-10-12 13:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling of just being so inlove with someone and then breaking up.
Thinking of this person everyday and wondering what they are doing and who they are they are with if they are happy or just telling you that.
The bottleline is he feels very strongly that he is protecting you and there is nothing that you can do about that. It hurts i know honestly i know... but its time to move on and love again... And you most likely will never love anyone else the way you love himand that is ok
2006-10-12 12:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mellisa C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only answer that I can give you is that first, you have to be able to love yourself.
Secondly, you are better off without a man then longing for one who seems to have alot of reasons to not be available to you.
Take the time to build your self-confidence, take some time for YOU! There is sooo much more to this world than having to be in love.
2006-10-12 13:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by noknownaccount 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well catch him alone. give him a hug and tell him this is not working, and tell him that you need him, and if he mentions that he doesnt want to hurt u again tell him that he is hurting you by not beeing with you. And no your not being selfish, i bet he wants you back too...it takes time. hang in there :)
2006-10-12 13:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by CAMELS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the context of the sentence. you have 2 feet. A backyard is 3 feet. each are plurals. Foot is the singular kind. i assume sometimes the words are used interchangably. now's the track, "5 foot 2, eyes of blue....." OR, "5 feet 2, eyes of blue......." etc.
2016-11-28 02:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by roever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's giving you an out and a line. Leave him be, you don't want to force an immature guy to date you it can only end badly.
2006-10-12 12:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk about the problem that caused the break up, if you can resolve that then you should be on to a winner....
I just wish my ex felt the way about me that you do about yours......
Go get it tiger...
Let us know how you get on...
JD
2006-10-12 12:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by JD417 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to quit playing. either he wants to be with you or not. sounds like your a yo-yo or something. break it off. and tell him when hes ready ['grown up'] for a relationship than to call you untill then...your not a yo-yo, and hell you might find someone better for you.
2006-10-12 12:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by astroheather84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either there's love and you both want to be together......or it's NOT that way.
Why do people make life more difficult than it needs to be?
2006-10-12 12:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋