my niece is 2 years old and doesnt share with my 1 year old, she thinks every toy or object or food is hers, this occurs at my inlaws and also at my house. i know age 2 is a tough age and i can accept that, the problem is that neither her parents or grandparents say anything to her, she will take away from my daughter and it is accepted. i dont want my daughter to be bullied and i dont want the uncomfortableness that goes along with disiplining her myself. why do parents let their children do whatever they want. i dont want any awkwardness between my sis in law and i ( she is a very sensitive person) how do i handle this?
2006-10-12 12:54:08 · 6 answers · asked by livsmom 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sharing is something every child has a problem with at one point or another. If you see her take a toy from your child say "It's not your turn yet, but until it is your turn play with this" then hand that child another toy. If it doesn't work let her throw a fit, but don't let her have that toy. She will eventually need to learn how to share and it's better to teach her before she goes to pre-school or k-garten. Talk to her mom about it. Don't do it in a mean way, just tell her that you have noticed that she has been taking your daughters toys and ask her if she minds you correcting her when she does this. It shouldn't be a big issue.
2006-10-12 14:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have a talk with your in laws about the situation. You could have a talk with just your sis-in-law, but I would involve the whole family. I would call a family meeting or ask to be heard the next time you were all together. I think it really does "take a village to raise a child". I know this conversation would be tricky, but it is your best and most honest hope.
Tell them that you are concerned that the kids (both yours and hers) will begin to fight when they are older. Point out the possibility that they will resent each other if fair guidelines are not established. Tell them you would love for the kids to be very close and happy, and that you are sure they also want the children to have the much needed well defined boundaries. Then ask for suggestions on how you could ALL make things better in this arena.
If these guys are readers you could also give them books for Christmas, birthdays, etc that point out how much children NEED discipline. The books on Reality Discipline by Kevin Leman are great examples of this.
Good luck!
2006-10-12 13:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by DidoDeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a poem I have displayed in my home. We have to teach are children the values of sharing. It takes more time for some children then others. Sometimes children who don't have siblings take longer to grasp this. Here is the poem.
Toddler's Creed
If I want it, it's mine. If I give it to you and change my mind later, it's mine. If I can take it away from you, it's mine. If I had it a little while ago, it's mine. If we are building something together, all of the pieces are mine. If it looks like mine, it's mine. If it's mine it will never belong to anyone else, no matter what.
Your turn with your baby will come. Try to be understanding and helpful.
2006-10-12 14:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she is around lock the childs door and only have toys out that you have two of that way you can give one to each and if the 2 year old takes both take one and tell her no you have to share.
2006-10-12 13:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a subscription to Parents magazine, unless its called Parenting.
2006-10-12 13:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you let this continue it will only get worse speak up try to be nice about it but tell them it has to stop.
2006-10-12 14:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by mutt531 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋