my gf and i have been together for 1 and a half years. we have been going through some tough times lately financially but they are working themselves out. my Q is, she has a few friends that are guys that she attended high school with. (she is 21) and she talks to most of em on a regular basis which i have no problem with. but there is one i just have a funny feeling about. i dont know why other than the fact that in her yearbook he signed it "your future husband". she hangs out with him about every other month and they go out to dinner or whatever. i once asked her why she never dated him or any of the others and she replied "because i never would, they are too good of friends". she says she loves me more than anything and i dont believe she would lie about it, but why do i have this "feeling" about this guy? i was supposed to meet up with her tonight but i couldnt make it, now she is with him....someone help please! is it just me, or do i have something to worry about?
2006-10-12 12:17:05 · 11 answers · asked by ReD SoX #1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, I think the fact that he wrote "your future husband" in her yearbook shows that there was never anything romantic between them. I have certain friends that I have known forever, that I have lunch with and talk to on a regular basis. There isn't, nor has there ever been any attraction there. I think you have that feeling about that guy because of what you read in the yearbook and because possibly, you feel that he is the most "her type" out of her group of friends. If they liked each other in that way, they would be together. They would have already been together, so I can personally assure you, from my experience as a woman, that you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Continue to be the great guy that I'm sure you are, maybe try to all go out to dinner once a month or so. That way, the friend can get to know you, and you can see for yourself that you have no worries.
2006-10-13 05:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by sexychik1977 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are are a very understanding man and there should be more like you. A lot of men would get very jealous if their woman had male friends and I mean just friends.
If you're bit worried why don't you see if your woman will accept you along next time she is meeting up with him.
I'm sure you will be able to tell if here is anything more than a friendship while you are out with them.
OR
You could ask him over for a BBQ with a few more friends and see what happens.
Hope alls well then ends well.
2006-10-12 19:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by slipper 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
i would go straight to what you think the problem is. ask the guy. most women wont date men that theyve been really good friends with. bad things happen and friendships are ruined. but if you have a feeling about this guy, ask him why they never got together. i think that would be the best thing to do in this situation.
2006-10-12 19:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by blu3_p1x1_st1x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it might be innocent on her part...but on his it might not be. i can understand your insecurity. i would be worried because he might want more than a friendship. he might have been serious about his message on the yearbook. but i'd watch him really close. i'd have a talk with her and tell her about your situation. i've given up my friends for my man before. if she loved you..she would understand the situation. have some kind of altimatum. its nothing wrong with it. just make sure its in a respectful manner. he should understand if she took it to him.
2006-10-12 19:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by babymama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.k it sounds like she really does love you and this guy is really just a friend. My best friends mom hangs with this one guy and its just like your situation except they are just friends. And the way it sounds I'm sure your gf and the guy are just friends. So I wouldn't stress over it to much. I wouldn't just let it go tho. Just wait around and if you start hearing things about them just talk to her about it.
2006-10-12 19:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by TCCgurl2010 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice is maybe they are just good friends, nothing more! Seeyou can join them when they hang out sometimes. And get to know him your self
My best friend is a male and I would not ever date him!!
2006-10-12 19:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by bridgett678 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she truly loves you then she would never cheat on you and just because she is chillin with sum otha guy dont mean theyre hookin up. you should trust her a little more. and if it turns out she is cheatin then im sorry for you.but if she says theyre just good friends then chances are they probly are just really good friends. kk hope i helped good luck!
2006-10-12 19:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by *BR0WN EYESz <3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its just u all of us have friends from back then that did stupid things like write that in the yearbook it doesn't mean he meant it u and her are cool
2006-10-12 19:20:28 · answer #8 · answered by John 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this situation does sound funny. i dont know what to tell u. but if it doesnot feel right then there might be something to worry about
2006-10-12 19:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE ALWAYS BELIEVED THAT I SHOULD GO WITH MY GUT INSTINCT, AND I AM USUALLY RIGHT.
TALK TO YOUR GIRL ABOUT YOUR CONCERNS, COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.
2006-10-12 19:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋