Ok so I'm going out for the first time tonight with a guy I really like, but I always act like such an idiot on a first date. And it was fine all the times before, because all those guys were idiots too (and not just on the first date), but this guy is smart and sweet and I really want to make a good impression on him. On a first date, I usually babble on and on about some dumb subject, and laugh nervously (REALLY nervously). What are some tips and stuff I can do so I act calmer?? (We're going to dinner at Chiles)
2006-10-12 12:13:06 · 12 answers · asked by Penelope L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He must know something about you and likes you to have asked you out on a date, unless it is a blind date.
Don't be afraid to tell him that you are a bit nervous and can ramble at times. Just be yourself and ask him questions about himself and his family. Guys like it when you ask them things about them. You can tell him some things about yourself that you feel passionate about that he may find intriguing.
He might be just as nervous as you are too. If you feel like you did something silly, just laugh it off. After the first fifteen minutes or so, you should feel more comfortable around each other.
Try to relax and not focus on whether or not you are making a good impression or not, that will surely make you act a bit more unnatural. Have fun. We are all rooting for you.
2006-10-12 12:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always let my date know that I'm a little nervous when going on a first date. Once I say this, they usually open up and tell me that they are nervous too. By them saying this, it some how makes me feel better so, I'm not nervous any more.
Also, try to ask him questions about anything in general. It's usually not a good idea to talk about ex boyfriends so, stear the conversation away from that. when he answers your questions, listen to what he is saying. Treat the first date as a way of getting to know more about him and his likes and dislikes.
I hope you have a great time and things go well. Good luck!
2006-10-12 12:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you know that you do certain things that make you look like an idiot! Most people don't get this far. :) Curb your "babbling" - listen more than you talk, ask a question and listen carefully to the reply; comment on the reply, but don't be wordy. Watch the nervous laugh! When you get the urge - don't do it! :) Good luck.
2006-10-12 12:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, that's a tough one. No matter what, you are going to be nervous...that's life. Just remember to breathe deeply and keep telling yourself that if you act like a fool, you might not have another chance with him. BE YOURSELF. FInd out all the basics...where did he grow up, where did he go to school, any brothers or sisters, does he enjoy his job, etc. This should give you something to talk about for awhile so there won't be that akward silence.
2006-10-12 12:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Faith C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's some advice I usually give younger men (I'm 45) when they ask me a similar question:
Make it a point to learn more about HIM on your date. That will require asking more questions than "babbling on and on about some dumb subject" - which I take to mean you have a tendency to talk a lot when you're nervous -and will force you to listen (REALLY listen) to what he has to say.
Think of it sort of like a test - that someone (maybe he will) is going to ask you later what you learned about him - so you have to retain and remember how he answers your questions, what his opinions about life are, etc.
Tough to give you meaningful advice about not being nervous - because 1st dates with someone you like are GOING to be nervous. But maybe this will help that one habit you've mentioned.
Best to both of you tomorrow night.
2006-10-12 12:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tomorrow night, or tonight?
Friday 13th Oct?
The 699th anniversary of the Catholic church's and the king of France's (Bonniface) attempt to eradicate the Knights Templar?
To the day? same month?
Portentious things will happen.
2006-10-12 12:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do don't fart. just try to be yourself, relax, pretend he is just one of your buddies from school and you go and hang out all the time, dont talk non stop let him talk too, I went out with this girl one time she was absolutely gorgeous, but she talked constantly I could never get a word in, needless to say the date was really short and I never called her back
2006-10-12 12:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and have fun if the guy really like you then he will appreciate you for who u are! just enjoy your self and make the best out of it make him laugh and have a fun time!
2006-10-12 12:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by katherine f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take deep breathes and let him do most of the talking. Ask questions now and then. And whatever you do, don't giggle for no reason.
2006-10-12 12:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by breezetucson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thnx 4 telling me that stuff about my sister and now ill try 2 help u just act natural dont hesitate 2 ask questions or talk about stuf completely unrealted from dating if this guy doesnt like u the way u r on this date THE HECK WIT HIM! a guy that is 4 u should luv wat u do no matter wat and if he thinks ur a dork thats his problem he doesnt see wat a great gal u r!
2006-10-12 12:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋