I am at my wit's end. I am downright ugly. I am 33, never had a girlfriend and still a virgin. I am very depressed about this. But I want to have a positive attitude. If I have a positive attitude and treat people nice, I am hoping girls will like me. But I have this notion that women want hot-looking guys, so it doesn't matter how nice you are. What should I do? Should I just give up and face reality that I will never find a girl to like me? Or should I just say, oh well, and just have a positive attitude anyway and hope that maybe a girl will like me?
2006-10-12 12:07:44 · 19 answers · asked by NJboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say "oh well" and just have a positive attitude anyway and a girl will eventually like you!!! I had a dry spell after a 5 year relationship and felt the same way...I totally understand!! I even tried to find someone over the internet and that was a disaster... (I found mostly liars and people who don't really want to ever meet you, just want to be disgusting over the internet)....girls do not want "Hot looking guys", they want nice guys that will treat them well and are nice, REALLY!!! Guys become cuter and cuter the more you get to know them if they are nice!! I had pretty much given up hope and then one day I was in the dentist office waiting room and a cute guy walked in and I just smiled and looked down. (I read to do this in Cosmo) I looked up a few minutes later and he was looking my way so I smiled again at him and looked back down. To make a long story short, he started talking to me and and then came over and sat next to me and we talked for a while and then took my phone number and called me that night. This was over 3 years ago and we are still together and bought a house and are getting married, so you never know!! I cannot believe that you are downright ugly...and there is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 33 (rent the 40 year old virgin for a laugh!) Keep a positive attitude, SMILE at girls and treat people nice....Head up..Smile and go get em!
2006-10-12 12:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never give up on love. It comes around when you least expect it. Most relationships should be built on something though. I tend to tell people that they should be built on friendship, trust, and love. Are you friends with any girls that you like or might like you and are just waiting for you to ask them? How do you know you are ugly? People usually have a low self-esteem of themselves, and don't realize that other people are waiting for them to say something. Why have you waited so long? What do you do to get out and meet people? Because some places are not the right places to meet someone.
2006-10-12 19:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jul M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up hope. There is somebody for everyone. What you need to start doing is change how you think about yourself. If you keep saying you are ugly, then you will be to everyone. When you start thinking about yourself in a more positive way, people will start noticing and that will give you confidence. Don't worry about when you are going to find someone, take care of yourself first then the rest will fall into place.
Good luck
2006-10-12 19:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by music lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww.... first of all let me give u a ego boost..no 1 on this planet is ugly..n I mean it…you may not b attractive to one gurl and next might find u 2 b hot...people have different kinds of expectation abt different things... u don’t have to pretend to b nice to make a gurl like you, I know that u may have heard this before but some1 is suppose to love u just the way u r... so if ur pretending to b nice then don’t…but if u being nice makes u feel good inside then don’t stop...
I believe that "some1 somewhere is made 4 you"... you will find her, mayb its just not the right time... n if you do c a gurl that u like put on that self confident that u have been hiding n just go up to her n start a small conversation or give her ur #...You have to should people that have the self confidence n u know wat ur doing...
And yeah…you never give up on anything you want in life... I’m sure u will find a gurl who’s made just 4 u...
2006-10-12 19:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by ArabianNite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Ive gone through this, i am not spectacular lookin...always loved women...but never got enough...hehehe
seriously, my experience tells me that if u are one of the good guys, it will all work out.
Once one dresses up alright, is not a freak...and is nice to ppl,. one of the ladies you know will notice...I've never had a problem with ladies (lucky me) because I believe 100% in myself...not meaning arrogantly...but meaning that if the worst happened I would know what to do...I am 100 % confident in myself...once you get there,.....all is good, not just girl wise, but life wise....because given the the sufficient resources you can achieve anything....best tip ok
email me...if you want further clarication...you dont need to...you are not ugly...you are human,and you have human warmth and magnetism..get on with life, and live life to the fullest...when you achieve, everyone ones a part of you ...so live it
2006-10-12 19:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ali H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....well, i have met very attractive men who are downright ugly!!! I have aloso met people (men and women) That on first sight aren't particularily attractive, but once you get to know them they are beautiful! An awesome personallity an good humor go along way! Don't give up! Maybe you are looking in the wrong place? Good luck!
2006-10-12 19:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by tonka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, you should say "oh well" and be positive for yourself, not for a "girl". While it's probably much easier for a "hot-looking" guy to find women, I don't think that less attractive guys are necessarily doomed. A lot of it has to do with how a guy carries himself. Self-confidence is attractive.
2006-10-12 19:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a girl out there that will like you, trust me. Try not to worry about it so much, 33 is young and people should be virgins until marraige anyway. Enjoy your life the right girl will come to you.
2006-10-12 19:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by brookedub22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um honestly I think my bf is drop dead ugly and most people wouldnt espect me to go with a guy like that because im a attractive women but i tell my friends when they ask that looks arnt everything you start noticing that when you start to mature more..I mean if you have a great personality then you just passed one of my qualities...
2006-10-12 19:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by becca . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop feeling sorry for yourself. Girls don't like a guy who isn't self confident. It isn't true that we like hot-looking guys because they are vain and don't treat women well. Nothing happens before its time. You will one day meet a wonderful girl who will fall head over heels in love with you...It takes time...So for now, be happy, confident, and be thankful that you are alive. Mark my words, you will meet someone--it has happened to me at the age of 35. You are not alone in your situation.
2006-10-12 19:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋