child with a temper?

Question

im in child development and there a boy about 3 that gets mad and hits and kicks the shelves and me and the other student teachers how can i try to calm him down

Answer 1

sit him your teacher and his mom down and discuse it if he hits you dont get mean and iam pritty sure it illigal to hit the kid reatran his arms watch nanny 911 watch what she does

Answer 2

what type of learning disability does he have??

does he have a lot of trouble communicating?? is he frustrated that he can't explain things clearly??

obviously you can't allow him to continue this manner. he may hurt himself or someone else. maybe when he's acting out you can take him to the gymnasium and let him run around and play ball or whatever to get out some of that energy.

i'm sure being a teacher you've already tried distracting techniques but keep doing them. redirect his behavior if you can.

if he's not distracting or hurting himself or anyone else then just ignore him and start coloring or painting or tossing a ball. once he see's he's not getting a reaction he will start to calm down and find out whats going on. he will see you having fun and try to join you.

definitely talk to the parents. maybe they know a technique that works good??

if his parents are spoiling him and give in every time he behaves this way then they need to be talked to.
if they are not helping their son then they are hindering. if they can't do their part in helping their son then he will only learn to walk over people instead of proper behavior. just because a child is developmentally challenged doesn't mean they don't learn to manipulate.
so talk with the parents openly. this behavior can't continue isn't good for the child or anyone else.

good luck.

Answer 3

You deal with his behavior only at this point. Take him to a quiet area of the room and tell him to sit there without moving or talking for 3 minutes. You use 1 minute for each year of age. This will be a difficult task for him and require you or one person to stay on him consistently. Do not engage him in talk or play during this 3 min.,just repeat that you will talk after he sits quietly for his designated time. After he has done this, then ask him if he knows why he was sitting or standing away, if he can tell you,then ask him to apologize to everyone and clean the shelves or the damage he has made before rejoining the group. Only reward his positive behavior. He is looking for attention and right now he only knows how to ask for it by negative reinforcements. Actually any episode that Jo Frost(Supernanny) does will show you how to do this behavioral change. He's going to require a lot of one to one attention from you, but is lucky that you are trying to help him. There are things in his life that are not going well and he is stressed out and doesn't know how to express himself. Thanks for trying to re-route his behavior.

Answer 4

When he first comes in greet him with warmth and love you have to gain his trust so that he can open up to you. You have to try to spend one on one time with him I know in child care it's hard but if you have the coverage try to do it as much as possible. Let him see that you really do care and when he starts hitting try to find out why what happened before he hit. You can most likely redirect him. Don't yell or get loud because that'll probably scare him and it may be the root of the problem. Or you can talk to mom in the morning develop a relationship w/ mom or dad to where they will probably tell you themselves if something is going on.

Answer 5

Obviously not an easy situation but you will need to stay calm with this child and not lose your patience so you can create a connection with him, gain his trust and hopefully this will allow for him to feel less defensive.

Lashing out in this manner immediately shouts out to me problems or issues with his home life, and the behaviour is a manifestation of extreme fear or anger or anger or confusion.

I suggest you talk to your superiors and see if a meeting with the boy's family is in order. Also might be worth having the boy physically assessed.

I wish you and this little boy all the best.

Answer 6

when he gets mad try to get down on his level and talk to him. Ask his why is he mad? What has happened to make him so mad? Try to redirect his anger. In my daycare I allow them to go into the safe area for some time alone. What they usually do when they get there is throw a few pillows, look at a book, or just sit until they calm down. This is NOT time out! Its just a place they can go alone to try to figure things out.

Answer 7

Maybe get him to let his feeling out in another way..like drawing, coloring...show him a different way that he is able to express how he feels.
Something with his hands perhaps...music..playdo..painting...maybe let him get some running around?? Exercise.....Getting some energy out may help.

Have you mentioned his behavior to his parents? See if he does this at home and work together at calming him down and finding a solution.

He needs to learn that showing anger like he does is not acceptable but he can show it in other ways like drawing a picture of how he feels...talking about something if he's angry.

Answer 8

Giving him what he wants/babying him will never solve the problem, it makes it worse. Try by diciplining him. I don't mean abusing someone elses kid but send him to time out. He needs to know boundaries and that you can't always get what you want. If he's not dealt with now, What makes you think he’ll change when he’s older? He could run away because he knows where to go etc....

Answer 9

when he comes to school, greet him joyly and happily with no hint of impatience or melancholy.

Make him sit down, give him some acticivities to do and give him cake ofr a lollipop.

Answer 10

Ignore them and they will soon tire of throwing a tantrum