i am thinking of asking my friend out for the second time. i already asked her out a year ago and she said no. that was a year ago. she said she was emotionally distressed at the time. since then we have grown close so i wanna give it anohter shot. how should i do it. like in perosn, over the phone and whaqt ewxactly should i say?
2006-10-12 11:57:27 · 25 answers · asked by cronaldo17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In person. Always in person. Say what you feel. It's hard to tell someone what to say when each person and each situation is unique. Sincerity always worked for me. =)
2006-10-12 11:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In person, and be sincere. If she is a good friend (and assuming she is since you have been friends for so long) then you should not have a problem explaining to her that she means alot to you and you would like to see where a relationship with her might lead. Ask her if she wouldn't mind going to dinner, on a date-date. Not a friend date. If she balks just say "Come, on. Just one date. I am not asking you to like it, just try it. And if you DO like it, maybe we can go again." And just let it build casually. If she turns you down again ask her why. Mention that this is the second time she has turned you down and you just don't understand what it is about you that makes her uninterested. If she pulls one of those "I don't want to ruin our friendship" crap, then maybe its time to evaluate why your still hanging around. Don't keep ripping your own heart out day in and day out hoping some day she might change her mind. It might be time to tell her that it hurts you too much to just be friends with her. That maybe you shouldn't be friends any more because it just hurts too much to be held at a distance. Good luck with that one.
2006-10-12 19:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by cbr♥fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In person is always best. If you can back it up with a little surprise, go for it (somethig like a single flower, one she likes). Just let her know your still interested and still want to take a shot! Though don't say it that way. Your words have to come from you for them to be genuine and not just "will you go out with me". It's not going to make you stand out. Good luck!
2006-10-12 19:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all...dress cute..lol.. just go up 2 her when u both r alone n b like " hey, may I have the honor of take u out for dinner/lunch/movie this weekend, I really like you n I want you to give me a chance n c it 4 ur slef... Will you b mine?
or
Ask her out to dinner or lunch...while ur eating or after ur done..just b like"you coming to this date means a lot to me, thanks...I have been think abt this 4 a long time but was waiting 4 the right time 2 ask you.. Will you be my gurl or will you b mine?
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When u both r alone be like “I have been think abt this 4 a long time n was waiting 4 the right moment… I really like you a lot… will you b my gurl?” or “can I take you out on a date, u coming would mean a lot to me.”
2006-10-12 19:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by ArabianNite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OVER THE PHONE?? are you a quack!
NEVER ask anyone over phone,email ,letter or etc JUST FACE TO FACE
anyway ask her again maybe she's been waiting and if she says "yes" im happy for u both and if she turns u down again if you really like her try again and if she's not worth it then its- time for YOU to move on. BEST WISHES
2006-10-12 19:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by axlrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in person is better because when u make eye contact, things will go better, u should remind her the thingy a year ago and how u want to give it another shot, because people grow....then when she's happy, tell her how u feel and ask her
2006-10-12 19:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be simple, send her flowers to work and ask her in a card. Here's why it's a public display of affection and will get her thinking of you in a different way.
2006-10-12 19:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by pixi_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shuold ask her out in person and tell her i feel really close to u do u want to give this bf gf thing a shot? and if she says no dont make u r friend ship ackward
2006-10-12 19:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out on the limb and ask her out on a simple date, FACE TO FACE, maybe she will see that you are ready to sacrafice emmbarasment and it shows her how much you like her.
PS: treat her with a lot of respect!
2006-10-12 19:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kaitie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't do it over the phone..
I would hate to be asked out over the phone its good to see her face and she to see your face when you ask her out...that would probably make a big difference
And when u do ask her out you shouldnt just flat out ask her out make sure your in the moment
2006-10-12 18:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by becca . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋