After Hurricane Katrina I moved into a house with my boyfriend. We have been together for a year and a half. He is starting to be a pain in my ***. He always goes out and spends money then when it comes to bills he is always short. I then have to go to my parents for money. I am trying to prove I can make it on my own. He never spends time with me. Everything is him, him, him! Why can't I leave?
2006-10-12 11:57:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Umm first of all, the only reason why you can't leave him would be because he's holding you back and forcing you to stay with him. Other then that your free to leave so don't even ASK why can't you leave. What the Hell is stopping you?
Also be smart, if he's being a real ***, then dump him, move on with your life. Just because you've been dating for 1 1/2 years doesn't mean your right for eachother.
And also i have no idea why this question is "Will Boys always be boys?" And yes boys will always be boys and girls will always be girls.
2006-10-12 11:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and done that. Baby, you are in love with a little boy that may or may not change. It's up to you to stick around and fine out. Obviously, you boyfriend has a lot of growing up to do. If he was a responsible man he would make sure that the bills would be paid before he parties. The only reason why he is doing what he does is because he knows you are there to back him up. Trust me I know. I had the same problems with my ex. Show is *** a lesson. Let the lights go off, and you sleep my you family or a friend for a few days and see how much he reaally cares. If he doesn't try to get at least half of the money to get them back on without you telling him. Darling you need to move on and fine someone you can grow with cause this dude right here is just a user.
2006-10-13 15:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Heaven 2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple either you love him or you're just afraid to move on. If you feel you can't rely on him leave. It's hard at first as you have much history together and you can't just let all that go that easily but all guys are not like that and there are bigger fish in the sea.Remember there are MILLIONS of men in the world and maybe being single is the best thing for you and willl open up a host of opportunities for you, so just play it by ear and do what you think is best. God wil guide you the rest of the way. But if you think he's the one and your relationship can still work tell him about your concerns and work to resolve them. Maybe he doesn't realize what he's doing to your relationship. Plus some men are naturally like that, just tell him he crossed the line and if he really cares it'll be the last time it happens( or there's a good reason for the relapse) but don't lose hope and good luck!
2006-10-12 20:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by cookster 360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have too much to prove. But you can leave. Some of us grow up. Some don't. You have. Find the guy that has. Don't be ashamed to tell your folks you have had a change and need to come home...or move elsewhere.
2006-10-12 19:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about it. The answer is "as long as your boyfriend doesn't save up to see a doctor in Europe, yes boys will always be boys."
2006-10-12 19:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by sweetirsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously ask your self "will this relationship lead to marriage?" if not don't waste your or his time, hey sometimes things just aren't meant to be, but men need to turn from childish things if they get to old they get set in there ways, and it will lead to nothing but problems because you think you can change him
2006-10-12 19:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's become your security blanket. You are afraid to go it alone. Talk to your parents. your minister, or someone you feel close to, then pack up and go. You're wasting time and money on a jerk.
2006-10-12 19:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Baffled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave that boy and find yourself a man, gotta go, my mom says dinner's ready
2006-10-12 18:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mike Honcho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop forgiving him and kick this loser to the curb...He sounds like he is nothing but a loser...Why are you allowing this behavour to continue?
2006-10-12 18:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats stopping you?
2006-10-12 18:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Phil S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋