I was raised in an old fashioned household. I understand that times have changed but I still think that the man should pay for majority of dates. My boyfriend of almost a year disagrees. He does it now but complains about it. He is at my house almost every day and I cook and do his laundry and I don't ask him for anything. We both work and pay our own bills. I do pay for some of our dates sometimes, but not a lot. He wants to go to a 50/50 type deal and I don't. Am I wrong???
2006-10-12 11:48:54 · 9 answers · asked by Dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Chivalry is in it's death-throes.
Modern America has fostered the opinion that with 'liberation' comes the co-pay.
You mention that he is at your house, and you do the cooking and laundry for him. It sounds like he may be either a cheap date, or not making enough money. Are the dates at McDonalds, or the Ritz?
makes a difference.
2006-10-12 11:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by George Curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do everything 50 50. But to tell you the truth, this is not a good relationship at all. You guys are not working it out well. I suggest you to communicate and work together, not seperately. Like paying bills and doing laundry, work together to do it not seperately. If you can't do that well I guess relationship is not heading toward the right path
2006-10-12 12:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do all that for free why does he want to go 50-50 on a date, so he comes out ahead? If he loves you he would not mind paying for the date. Does he ask you out or do you ask him out. Myself I think I would start looking for someone else If you married him it would always be a problem
2006-10-12 11:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're wrong. I'm not criticizing your upbringing, but this is 2006... join us! Don't you earn a living? Why, just because he's a male, is it his responsibility to pay? I'm sure if you were doing the same job as a man, you'd want equal pay, right? I'm not saying he can't open some doors for you, and things like that, but really...don't be so cheap! I grew up with 4 older sisters that would cringe if they read what you wrote... but that's just me.
2006-10-12 11:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by JP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was raised traditionaly also and for years I paid for everything when out on dates. As time went on I believed that whoever invited who out should pay.ex If your b/f invites you out to the movies, then he should pay for the movies and dinner if you eat out since he invited you and vice versa. Here is another way, Me and my girlfriend take turns, If I buy dinner she gets the movie and popcorn, or if she buys dinner I get the movie and treats. this is really fair and neither one of us feels like we are the ones that are constantly paying for everything. Now that does not mean that I dont take her out and pay for everything every now and then, especially if she helps me clean my house or helps me with laundry, or just because I feel doing something special for my girlfriend. Find a way that works best for both of you, or tell him you are going to quit being his maid if he is going to keep griping about taking you out, because if you were cooking and cleaning my house and washing my dirty undies, then I can promise you I would be paying for dinner everytime we went out, it would only be fair
2006-10-12 11:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by smitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to wash his own laundry! does he wash yours? is that a 50/50 deal too? NO you are not wrong, he should be the man and just do it.
2006-10-12 11:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by hotchickhazeleyed 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who asked who out on the date? That's what the deciding factor is. It is rude to invite someone somewhere and then expect them to pay.
2006-10-12 11:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's so previous. Now days adult men and females artwork mutually... and no you are able to desire to plot a common date that bankrupts somebody. a common date could desire to be easy and common. Meet for a drink, a small chunk and a action picture... then consistent with how that is going you the two choose in case you opt to fulfill lower back... and if the fee of the dates will improve, you the two chip in.... the guy buys stay overall performance tickets, the female alternatives up dinner... all of this of direction relies upon on the earnings stages of the relationship social gathering. while you're paid like bill Gates, then hell sure a guy could desire to pay... yet once you're the two working at Taco Bell, or the two popping out of a divorce... you in simple terms play it by utilising ear. it quite is 2011 and those lines and gender roles have dwindled slightly. I dated a woman as quickly as and that i spent a exceptional form of money on our first few dates... and then because of the fact i become broke, I held off on asking her out lower back... whilst she finally asked why I had stored a distance, she become so pissed the i assumed she could care approximately what fee what. Our next date become at her place... we ordered a pizza and rented a action picture... and made love for the 1st time. we've been married now for 14 years.
2016-11-28 02:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not wrong to expect it, it's called chivalry, and most men do that still. it's OK to expect it, as long as you don't insist on it, because that would be selfish. above all, don't think about it much, just go with the flow.
2006-10-12 11:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋