I had a associate call my boyfirend and leave a voice mail saying she was calling from my Dental office (I had a dental appt that am) she said that I had had an adverse reaction to the novocaine. That I had regained consciousness and that I would call him later when I was up to it. I know, it's not the type of joke you play on someone, worse yet someone you love. He called twice concerned. I called him back 2 hours later and immediately told him the truth, it was a bad joke. I knew he would be upset but it's been 3 weeks now and he has not gotten over it. He said he needs more time and that he's unsure he wants to continue the relationship as he's really hurt over the fact that I had no regard for his feelings. He's absolutely right. I've never done anything like that before and feel dreadful about it. He won't take my calls, but says he will let me know his decision - should I move on or wait? I love him dearly what can I do to help him get over it. Is it worth breaking up?
2006-10-12 11:40:55 · 18 answers · asked by michele c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to leave him alone, and give him the space and time that he's asking for. There's no telling what kind of horrible things were going through his mind when he got that call. He probably thought he'd lost you. However, you are remorseful about it, and the only thing you can do now is apologize, wait on him to come around, and NEVER play such a childish joke again. Hopefully, he will get over it. I think he just really cares about you, and you put him through all that worrying for nothing. Good luck hun.
2006-10-12 11:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew it. First of all, why did you do it? It wasn't even a joke. At what point is it supposed to be funny? It's lame.
But I can see your boyfriend's point of view. I would seriously have doubts about whether you were the right girl for me. Out of the blue, you play this mind game on him? He's probably wondering why you did it, because it wasn't a "joke", it was a mind game. Did you want to see how he would react to the news? If you did, then you are manipulative. I'm sure he wants a girlfriend who is an honest person and who sincerely cares about him and his feelings. A person that does what you did is neither, it seems. You should move on and don't pull this crap with the next boyfriend. Who knows, your next bf might do it to you.
Also, you don't say how long you've been together. So, it's hard to say whether or not he would forgive you. It seems like you and he haven't been together for very long. If it has been a long time, then maybe he can forgive you. If it hasn't, then what do you mean, you love him? It's too soon to "love" him.
2006-10-12 11:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by grrandram 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jokes are great, just not when someone's health is involved. That being said, maybe he has wanted out of this for a while because he seems to be acting pretty petty about it. I can see being pissy with you for a few days, but three weeks. My intuition is that he wanted out for a while and is using this as an excuse. But that was kinda tasteless, but personally, I would have gotten you back twice as good, but that is me.
2006-10-12 11:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the source of his fear was the love for you. He was so scared for your safety and if you see that as a joke, he may not be too happy with it. He really cares about you. Just give him time and if he doesn't come back, then you know never to do something like that anymore.
There's not much you can do but wait.
2006-10-12 11:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be kidding! That's silly of him to drag it on but it wasn't a good descision for you to wait 2 HOURS to call him. I probably would've been piss too. The difference though it my boyfriend can take a joke and that's what makes the relationship great. Why would YOU want to be with someone who is torturing you and making you wait? By saying to you that "he'll get back to you with his answer" and not returning your calls he's basically broken up with you and doesn't have the balls to tell you. You sound fun loving find some one of the same magnatude!!!...Good luck sister but save those kinds of joke for April fools day!
2006-10-12 11:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by kane_rosebud 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you did was just the excuse he was looking for to break up with you. Obviously he wanted to break up and you gave him the perfect opportunity, because what you did was not that big a deal. Do one of two things. (1) move on. (2) Go over to his place and confront him. The real deal is that if you love somebody, you always have the capacity to forgive them.
2006-10-12 11:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It just may be the reason you're breaking up. I would give him a little more time, but what you did, was really bad. But you know that. All you can do is apologize and hope he believes you. If you love him as much as you say you do, you'll give it a bit longer.
2006-10-12 11:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has serious control issues! Getting jealous of a dog...? What the hell? If you really like him and feel like he will listen to you, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Or, leave him before this turns into something worse (that you can't get out of).
2016-03-28 06:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on, That was a very cruel joke, I wouldn't be with someone so childish they have absolutly no reguard for my feelings, If he does take you back, your a very lucky girl to have such a forgiving man.
2006-10-12 11:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by mt_lil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have known better than to play a trick like that...You will have to wait until he forgives you--meaning leave him alone for now. You can send him flowers or a card apologizing for what you did...That might work to get him to forgive you sooner.
2006-10-12 11:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋