There used to be a time in my life where I thought I was decent looking, never great, but decent. I would say that it was probably from the time I was 12-15 (yea I know really young). Being 21 now, and looking back on it I guess I probably was decent looking after all, but I just didn't know it. Now being 21, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that I am pretty ugly. I'm only 5'6, which is tiny for a guy, i have acne scars (mostly discoloration and some rolling on my forehead and cheeks they aren't the worst you've ever seen but i would say 5 out of 10 on the scale of bad), and even if the height and complextion weren't the case the with how I turned out I still wouldn't have been the best looking guy around anyway. I guess the one redeeming quality is that my body isn't horrible cause i play soccer and lift and all, but it's not like it's great and muscular etc etc, it's just simply alright. And the more I look back on my life it's starting to make sense to me now because I can
2006-10-12 10:59:33 · 28 answers · asked by ev 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only probably count on one hand the number of girls who have been interested in me throughout my life. So I've pretty much come to the conclusion that I'm not hideously ridiculously ugly, but fairly unattractive and ugly. it's a tough thing to accept but i think i just gotta accept it and move on. it sucks cause there's girls who i'm interested in and probably any decent looking guy may have a shot, but not me. and please none of the personality stuff cause i have a great one, it's how i've gotten by over the years. but any feedback would be great. thanks
2006-10-12 11:02:07 · update #1
You mention NOTHING... NADA...SILCH....about your inner beauty. Which makes you either OR very shallow Or maybe you are working yourself into a state of depression....MUCH TO MUCH self conscious- you are, you know. Go get a mirror place it looking away from you and across your chest so you can't possibly see your reflection. Done that?...GOOD, very GOOD. Now shut off all the lights around you so that you cannot be influenced by any object, person or sound. NOW Think about the last nice thing you did for somebody but yourself, GOOD. Now think about the last NICE thing someone did for you. GOOD. Keep on this train of thought until you wake up some time later, turn that mirror around carefully turn on all the lights and take another look at yourself...how do YOU feel about yourself NOW?
2006-10-12 11:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound ugly at all. You sound like a guy who needs to give himself a break and focus on your many positive points - not every girl is after the 'tall, dark, handsome' stereotype. There are many, many girls who will find you attractive, and probably loads who already have (you just might not have known it, or noticed because you were so busy giving yourself a hard time). You're only 21 - so you have plenty of time! Most girls go for a funny, happy and self-confident guy over one who's stereotypically gorgeous (but perhaps uninteresting). And the fun thing is - you only really start to see this as you get older. Give yourself a couple of years, and you'll realise that there's far more to being attractive than physical handsomeness. You sound like you have a lot to offer - just be a bit easier on yourself!
2006-10-12 11:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.K.
I am the mother of 3 guys...o.k. so your 21
Its a very hard time of life...and when you say''looking back on my life''!!! makes me smile.
You are JUST starting your life!
So this is what you need to do..o.k.
Save a few dollars...and invest in feeling good.
1ST...make a appointment with a unisex skin centre...so that your skin can be looked at.It may need some care to it..o.k.
2nd...You don't stop growing at 21....and even if your height is not that tall...look at Tom Cruise?
So your only problem is> your face may need a little attention...
Have you got the right hair style..(and colour?)
Is your hair always clean?..
that makes a huge difference...plus wearing one or two very nice shirts and pants, can do a huge change.
But...get your skin in order....If you not happy...after doing all I have said......Ask a professional...where they can help, in the way
of change..BUT! that must be a totally last chance.You also have not stopped in really, how you could look in another two -three-four years...get a really honest person..to tell you what you may not see....BUT!! another point, you have to sometimes in life, EXCEPT somethings...Work also from within.VERY VERY
IMPORTANT...Looks fade after time, I know that...all the best.
2006-10-12 11:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're down on yourself. I'm not sure why... You know you'll never see the good in others if you keep looking down all the time.
You know a good personality covers a multitude of imperfections. There are girls out there that have been hurt seriously by guys. Guys who have gotten what they wanted and then said extremely nasty things to them.
I heard one guy who dated a girl two years, asked her to marry him, and then one day... He turns to her and says, "You know now that I really look at you, you're not pretty enough for me to marry."
He was a very handsome guy outside, but butt ugly on the inside.
You know what lasts... Being good on the inside... When some woman comes along... Please for the love, don't start downgrading yourself. Simply enjoy being in her company... She won't care that much about the acne or that you're 5'6"... Hell Tom Cruise 5'7" got Nicole Kidman 5'11"...
There's someone out there just dying to meet you... Do the best with what you have to work with and focus on your positives...
You're in good shape, you have hobbies, you're going to do fine...
Stay in it.
2006-10-12 11:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by James B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex bf had acne scars they wasnt very bad and i thought they were quite cute on him...i wouldnt say u sounded ugly.
You will find someone who likes you for you including the way u look the way u dress the music u r into...that is the kinda girl you wanna be with!! its not all about looks you know!! try to build you self-esteem back up, go flirt with some girls.
2006-10-12 11:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by hunybuny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend you're forgetting the one true thing. Beauty is inside and it's in the eyes of the beholder. We are all beautiful in our own way. Change something about yourself maybe anew hairstyle or color. Take up a yoga class and focus on the inner you. But most of all smile and be happy. You'd be surprised at how many men and women will be drawn to you simply with a smile.
2006-10-12 11:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by rose v 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugly is tough - tough to believe we all feel that way about some part of our lives. Yes, you have some handicaps. The physical ones you can't change. The mental ones you don't need to keep. Your personality of courtesy, interest in the other person, kindness will blind any but the ugliest of hearts.
2006-10-12 11:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, it's the stuff inside that matters! im pretty sure you are being over-critical of yourself...you wanna tell me that no one ever had a crush on you? give me a breakl. YOu need to heal your issue about yourself...start praising yourself every day. start loving yourself. living an unhappy life is too expensive. find your inner beauty and everyone will love you. it doesnt matter what you look like..all that matters is your behaviour and the stuff you say..... check out www.mysterymethod.com...good luck and cheer up.
2006-10-12 11:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Feodora 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls go out with the most ugly guys. I swear it seems, the uglier the guy the hotter the girl he's with. Your looks matter a lot less than your personality, your confidence, your intelligence, or even your smile. It's your attitude that's holding you back, not your looks.
2006-10-12 11:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Steve M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok I'll be honest you sound pretty cute. Acne is something you can't control. I bet you are really handsome. 5'6" is pretty tiny but good things come in small packages.
2006-10-12 11:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋