Do you think it is a good idea to stop seeing her at all? Everytime I met her after breaking up it took me at least three days to lower my beat heart. Do you think stop seeing her would eventually lead to forgetting and thinking about a new relationship? I would be grateful for ansers from people having gone through the same and not only. Thank you!!
2006-10-12 10:34:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You never do get OVER the person; you just tell yourself over and over that this is how life needs to be. It's best that you move on. You will always wonder about the other person, you will ponder and wonder, dream and be sad. It's like a death; you have to tell yourself over and over (like its a sales pitch) that the other person was not meant for you; God has someone for you. If something was meant to be, it would have happened. One thing I say to myself is that my exboyfriend married someone just like me, so that in a way, a proxy me married him - so I support his marriage to this day. They are still married since 1979 w/2 grown kids. And it doesn't bother me anymore. But it took 10 yrs to let go, too.
I wish you the best. Try and place your heart toward the future, don't dwell in the past, and understand that things do happen for a reason, even if we never do find out why.
2006-10-12 12:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that people think it is smart to remain friends? Anyone, does this really work? The only way this will stop the hurt is to avoid an ex if at all possible. All a new relationship will be is a rebound relationship. If you are vulnerable and you enter a new relationship and that fails then you are back at square one. Let healing take place before you enter a new relationship. Get back with your friends, meet new friends, anything but get into a new relationship. Good luck
2006-10-12 18:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people, need to make a clean break, if it is really over. I had to throw away all personal items from my former relationship , any thing he gave me. I did not make the choice he broke up w/ me but it is highly effective to just shed the person like a snake would it's old skin, just move on do not look back.
You'll breathe like you did before, the heart heals in time! If it is over then make it that way, do not see the person!
2006-10-12 17:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by tamme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is entirely down to you, do you still wana be friends with her? if yes then im sure u will always have feelings for her and after a while these feelings of still wanting to be with her will gradually start to change to a friendship! it will just take time.I know someone who was with his girlfriend for 6 years and they broke up on good terms and bad mainly because it didnt seem to be going anywhere, they have been broken up for at least 3 years and are kinda best of freinds now, he has always told me he still loves her but not in that way anymore!! However i would also suggest that if it was her who broke up with u and u were morre gutted then maybe it would be best for you to move on!
2006-10-12 17:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by hunybuny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont' see her. Be polite but stop seeing her. Have a large drink straight and don't look back. There was a reason why you broke up to begin with, so there were obviously issues right- hence because you couldn't sort out your issues or compromise on what ever it was... you broke up. Therefore seeing her again defeats the purpose of the break up!
2006-10-12 17:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by antagonist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, stop seeing her. the more you see her, the more you will get hurt. Find something to do, meet new people, socialize more. You will be miserable if you keep seeing her. The wound is still fresh and it will not heal if you don't stop seeing her or accepted that you and her are done. Stay away from her, then come back to see her if everything is ok and the wound is healed. goodluck!
2006-10-12 17:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience: avoid her at all costs. Drive out of the way, take longer routes, whatever it takes, just avoid her. Start activities that will keep you busy & your mind off her. After a month or so, resume dating....anyone remotely interesting. The best cure for a broken heart is a new girlfriend.
2006-10-12 17:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on the circumstances of the break up if it was mutual you can eventually forget that you and the person once had a "thing" but if your hurting i would advise that you stay away for a while as seeing them moving on will make you feel awful (tip eat chocolate its good for the soul, but not too much as next time you see her/him you wanna be looking good!!
2006-10-12 17:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by leanne_on_line 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it took me 3 years to stop loving my ex girlfriend even though i had a few girlfriends afterwards but maybe it was the fact that we had a baby together. i still see her every now and then when i go to see my son but the spark will never go away and given the chance you will find that if she asked you again if you could make a go of things again there aint no force on earth that could stop you getting to her to say yes
2006-10-12 17:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Silky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop seeng her for now. Out of sight and out of mind. You only torture yourself by meeting her. Keep yourself busy so you don't have time to worry too much. I got some me some rebound sex after my break-up, but I know that's not for everyone. Good luck, you'll get through eventually!!
2006-10-12 17:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋