it's 72 hours from the i do's...vendors are paid...the familys have agreed in principle to keep from going all"Jerry Springer" on each other....with a few small details left...we're ready to go....but i think she's going to stab someone if the DJ mispronounces a name or the Videographer misspells something or the photographer is late...how do i chill my shrinking violet out before she calls up a vendor or family member because she's stressed and cant be assured that EVERYTHING will be PERFECT? Will i ever look at my sweet quirky love again and not see this fire breathing demoness that lurks beneath the surface?
2006-10-12 10:32:10 · 10 answers · asked by sioagh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The goddess has seen your blasphemy foolish man, and thou shalt surely pay!!!
All hail the dark Queen!!!
2006-10-12 10:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by C-Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down, look her in the eyes and say:
"I love you more than anything in the world. You are an amazing woman and I am marrying you because you make my life better than I'd ever imagined it could be. Remember that this wedding is simply so that we can share our love with the people whom we love. They don't care if the dj pronounces a name wrong, they don't care if the napkins aren't folded perfectly, or there's a crooked flower in one of the bouquets. What they care about is sharing this amazing day with the both of us. This is supposed to be a day of happiness and love, not stress and worry. NOTHING IS GOING TO BE PERFECT NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU STRESS ABOUT IT. So, please, relax. I want you to enjoy our wedding day. Don't worry so much about the details. Just remember that I love you, and all that matters is that at the end of the day, you and I will be husband and wife, and THAT, is what it's all about."
In your own words, of course.
The worst thing that brides do is expect perfection. I'm a bride-to-be myself. I've given up the idea that things will be perfect. All I want is for my friends, my family, myself and my groom to have an amazing time and that the photographer captures as much of that good time as possible. I'm sure that I'll stress out when I'm 72 hours away...I'm also graduating from college and taking medical licensing exams a week before my wedding. So....just be honest with her and tell her that it is stressing you out, and there's no reason for either of you to worry that much. It's going to beautiful and amazing no matter what, just because you two love each other and have made the decision to tie the knot!
My fiance had a conversation similar to this with me. We're farther from the actual date, though, so I don't stress quite so much, but he just wanted me to know that nothing is going to be perfect, but it will be what it is, and that will be lovely. It was his way of telling me to not spend so much time making decisions on all the little things. They truly don't matter in the end.
When everyone has gone home, all they'll remember is how wonderful it was to hear your 'I do's and see the bride looking so lovely. The flowers will be wilted, the favors will be either eaten or tossed aside, the dj won't even be remembered. All that's left is Mr. and Mrs. YOU.
CONGRATULATIONS! Just remember that this day is the most important thing to us gals. We want perfection because we only get to have this day once.
Also, you might call her maid of honor and ask her to try to pick up some slack and take over some tasks (like making sure the dj can pronounce all of the names), and ask your bride whether or not there's anything you can do to give her a stress break, like promise to make sure the catering details are taken care of, or something to that effect.
2006-10-12 17:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny that she would worry about 3 to 6 hours of her life more than she would worry about the rest of her life with you. If she is that intense about how perfect life will be while you are married then what do you think? If she is not so much a perfectionist in general then what do you think? The marriage ceremony and reception are just a couple events in a life time that could be another 60 years and she is ONLY worried this comes off right. What about the next 60 years how worried is she? Are you? You seem to be.
And what if something goes wrong. Who will know? Only the wedding party if you recover quickly right? Things can go wrong or not exactly to plan, what is the big deal? You cannot do it allll yourself.
Would it not be more fun to enjoy the wedding and reception and enjoy the rest of your lives together? Helloooooooo
2006-10-12 18:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, if she hasn't learned to relax about her wedding at this point, I'm not sure if any amount of consoling will make her do so. But, it's worth a shot.
Explain to her that you love her, and everything is going to special and memorable...even if there's a carrot missing from the veggie platter. Every bride dreams about her wedding and expects everything to go "just so". Reiterate to her that the most important thing is that you two are together and are going to share this amazing moment with those that are important to you. Let her know you appreciate all of her hard work and planning and want her to relax so she can enjoy your special day. She's done a great job and needs to be happy with it. As long as you are both there to say "I do", it's all that really matters.
2006-10-12 17:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope that your bride will be the type who will worry, b*tch and complain until the day and then feel that the day is so wonderful that everything is fine. I worried, not b*tched, the whole six months before my wedding. On the day I opened the flower box and found the wrong bouquet. I picked it up and carried it down the aisle just fine- without a complaint. You have to be supportive, but don't let her steamroll you.- your sweet quirky love will be there when she meets you at the end of the aisle.
2006-10-12 18:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of stress for us women folk when it comes to our weddings. She just wants everything to be perfect not only for herself, but for you also. Everyone wants to look back at their wedding and say "wasn't that the most wonderful day of our lives", instead of "GOSH! CAN YOU BELIEVE THE PREACHER KEPT FORGETTING OUR NAMES!" (I have actually been to a wedding where this happened, the bride was mortified to say the least). As soon as you see how perfect and beautiful she looks on your wedding day all of the "demoness" likenesses will disappear before your eyes. Hang in there, it will all be over soon.
If you think she is bad now, wait until she gets pregnant (if you two decide to have children) and starts on the nursery. My poor honey is having to deal with my planning our wedding (next Sunday) and my trying to get ready for our baby. I sure hope he still thinks of me as fondly as you think of your love. Don't worry... all will turn out well. Bless you both and your marriage. Congrats and best wishes!
2006-10-12 17:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Pren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man, you poor guy! Like I always say first - Deep Breaths!
Unfortunately, I think it's a little late to get it into her head that no matter what she does, it will never be "the perfect day" and that it's alright. The best you can do is talk to her about how much you are looking forward to being her husband and sharing your life with her.
From what I've seen, Bridezilla will fade away after the wedding day.
2006-10-12 17:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROTFL good luck and lets hope she is OK after you said I do and remind her its only a day but your marriage is for a life time too many brides focus on the day I know I was one of them once upon a time and now I realized had I not been so worried if people are going to have fun and a good time or not I would have had a better wedding day but my friends tell me I was very sweet to them so give your a girl a drink and trust me she will be thankful for it good luck and Congrats to you !!
2006-10-12 18:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out on a nice romantic "last date"....far away from where ever you live.
2006-10-12 17:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE
2006-10-12 17:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋