Should I take him back again?

Question

ok so I still like my ex boyfriend and I think its all becuz he says sweet things to me that kinda sucks me in you know? and hes unemployed but he says he'll find a job and sometimes all he wants is like sex and stuff and I feel like I'm being used when he really loves me but loves me the wrong way not the way I want him to what is wrong with this whole thing?

Answer 1

It's chicks like you that give girls a bad name. How can he love you "the wrong way?" When can anyone love you wrong? He is using you for sex, plain and simple. He seems like a nice guy at face value, but he can't find a job? It's TOO easy to find a job, even if it's just a crappy one. A lot of the dirtbag guys know all the right things to say and how to sweet-talk you into being with them and you still can't figure it out. Geez, get a clue people.

Answer 2

you answered your own question. What you feel towards him has nothing to do with who he is but who you see him as. Unfortunately he is showing you who he is choosing to be and if that person doesn't treat you well and uses you, that won't change. Think of it this way, he may not love you the way you want, but someone out there is waiting for the chance. If you aren't satisfied with what you have, that means there is something better. He may really care about you but if you stay with him or get back with him before he changes who he wants to be, you are telling him it is ok. You are giving him a pass to do what he wants and in the end you will be the one left unhappy. Depending on how long you two were together, he may be saying those sweet things because he already KNOWS what to say to get to you. My best advice is to move on and be patient. what you need, what will fulfill you will come if you are patient and wait. It is the hardest thing to do sometimes but patience does pay off.

Answer 3

Relationships that get a second chance usually don't work out, mostly because the first time around, you realized something was wrong.

I'm pretty sure you answered your own question. If he's unemployed, he should find a job before he makes you promises. If he only wants sex, that's not a relationship; that's lust.

If he doesn't love you the way you want him to, that's a clue that this isn't going to work out. And what's wrong with this whole thing? You answered that on your own.

Answer 4

I would say sounds like a loser. But if you still care about him. You could find out if he really wants to be with you or just wants to use you for sex and things. Number one. Let him know your not going to give him money or sex. He needs to get a job. And far as the sex thing goes let him know if he really loves you he will wait to have sex til he can prove that he can stand up on his own, and treat you like you want to be treated. All words are are words, But as I have always believed actions speak louder then words will ever.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

If you feel like you are being used then you are. You need to let him go. If he really cherished you and wanted to be with you then he would be willing to do whatever it took to make you happy.
You shouldn't settle for just anything. Believe me there is someone out there that will love you the way you want.
Don't put up with bull***t just so you can say you have someone.
Let it go and give yourself time to get over him and understand and know what you want so you don't make the same mistake next time.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

If he really cares about you and respects you he would want to impress you and do the best for the both of you. He should get a job, so he can take you out and pay for things, buy you gifts on special days. The sex thing, well most guys want sex alot, but he should respect you if you tell him no.. and he shouldn't get mad.

Answer 7

Let me gently spell this one out for you:
1) Codepency: When a person enables a dependent person to stay dependent and not grow up.
2) Dependency: When a person lets another person take care of them when they should be taking care of themselves.
3) Tough love: When you tell this guy that because you care about him, you're not going to get back into a win/lose relationship with you where he uses you and stays a loser!
Hope that helps!

Answer 8

Look, you might as well admit it, you are going to keep taking him back until he finally does something really horribe, like have sex with your friend or something. Since deep down you know you are not strong enough, or emotionally stable enough to leave him for good, I say just roll with it. Maybe he'll change, but you should focus on yourself.

Answer 9

i think if you have to question weather to take him back or not it wouldn't be wise to .was he working when you last dated him?i just question it because if he doesn't have a job and he wants to start dating again how does he think he's going to take you anywhere with no money,but then again he knows you have money,that right there would turn me off. and you said he knows how to suck you right in,if you know all this don't allow it to happen.and if you feel you would like to give him that chance test him out to see what it is he is after .if he's in it just for you then go for it,but be on guard and don't allow him to use you.

good luck

Answer 10

If you feel like you're being used, you probably are. Invest your time in hobbies and activities that don't involve him - not only will you feel better about yourself, but you'll probably manage to catch the eye of someone who will appreciate you for who you really are, and not just because he can sucker you into having sex.