How do you tell your family you may be gay....they are ok around gays/lesbians but they say "its not for me" and I know when they say that they mean "its not for my family either" so how do you tell them you might be gay without them going all apeshit and causing a problem; I asked me uncle (he's real lax on it and dont mind at all) but how do I tell the others? He said If I am I should let the others know first. should I? Or should I keep quiet and if they find out settle for the craziness that will insure.
2006-10-12 10:20:18 · 12 answers · asked by chubbazbubba 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wasn't yesterday national coming out day?
2006-10-12 10:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't have to tell them. they already know. they may be in disbelief, which must be a hard thing to deal with. you already know what you are. all their life, they supposed, you grow up go out with a girl get married some day, then procreate. that's what they thought, all these years, they beleived in this, really thought it out that way. now, if you have the heart to tell them they've been wrong all these years, they're going to wonder if they did something to cause this, somehow. please, leave this to the natural processing system. you do not have to say anything. you do have to love them and accept them. you are the one that diverted, not from your, personal path, but the one they planned for you all their lives. they had an imprint of a certain way, and that's as natural as you being gay. i wouldn't say a thing. i would hope they would catch on. it's not about sex, that's nasty, straight or gay. it's about love. show them how they taught you, well, how to love, how they taught you respect to the point that sooner or later, they will figure it out and show you the same respect for the way you were born to love. soon, they all will support you. they will remember how you did not throw this in their face, they will appreciate that. they'll realize the effort you took in ,not keeping it from them, just, allowing them with time to figure things out on their own. continue to be yourself, do not lie but do not boast. it does not help to put them down and pick your friends over your family. if it comes to the dirty down, get out, until they can figure it out. it's not just about you. you may be surprised and very happy to find out, all along they've been working on acceptance, while all along, you've been worried, which does no good...
God bless us all...
2006-10-12 10:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them all together by a nice fire and serve some wine and cheese and tell them you have an important anouncement to make. Then say "everyone I want you to know that I am a stool pusher, thats right I like to come in the back door"
2006-10-12 10:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should wait and find out that you really are before you tell your family about your sexuality.
You could just be curious and wanting to try something different.
So when you figure it out then all you can do is just tell them if that's the way you want to go.
If they love you they will love you unconditionally and being gay shouldn't make them love you any less.
Good Luck!
2006-10-12 10:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, are you gay or just have gay thoughts?
You may be bi and like both guys and gals.
Be sure of your feelings and tendencies and if you are in a same sex relationship, approach the subject then after you are sure.
Second, if its the real thing, just be frank with them and explain it.
You are their flesh and blood and they will accept you for what you are.
2006-10-12 10:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be open and tell the truth. It`s your family they love you, yes they would be unhappy at first but eventually except the fact that you are gay.
2006-10-12 10:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by spatz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree. Tell all of them. It only hurts for a minute. Then you can get on with your life exactly as you want to. Good luck!
2006-10-12 10:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by knownothing 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just come right out and say I'm gay!
2006-10-12 10:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Amy M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them you are a f a g.
2006-10-12 10:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by daveyboyone 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait til you know for sure.
2006-10-12 10:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋