help i cant stand this i want to run away!?

Question

my aunt had been a successful woman and i am only a child. i am actually 12 and life is so hard for me. my parents died 2 years ago but since i was born they always wanted the best of me. when i come home from school and get a b, my grandpa and grandma yell at me for that grade. i tried to talk to them and they wont listen. i dont care about winning, but they do and everyone wants me to be exactly like my aunt. i am who i am but my family wants to change me. i like who i am. i love my aunt but she nevers sees me in my singing competions or acting. and when i sing or act i have to get the lead. i am preety good, but people are better. i dont care about that. my grandma and grandpa are always talking about how good my aunt is and before she never picked up the phone when my mom called. help!

Answer 1

Try and stick it out, it's gonna be hard but do what you know is best for you, and don't let others determine your future, because you are going to have to live with you for the rest of your life- not them. Just don't run away, that would suck even worse and make things a lot more complicated.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Your grandparents are old and bitter, they don't have anything else to think about and maybe letting them know when you get an A will keep them occupied for a little while. If you get a B and they complain, you might ask how you could do better because you worked hard and the teacher is a tough grader. Then when they say to study more, maybe it will give you an excuse to study so that you can get away from them.

Honestly, I am stabbing in the dark. I'm afraid I don't know how to deal with such difficulties except maybe by learning to focus on more important things and not letting them get to you. Try to see it as their problem and feel sorry for them. Try to see anything good in what they are doing, since maybe they are trying to help you get better grades so that you feel better about your life. Finally be glad you are able to see how well you did, even if they are not. Don't expect too much too fast, be patient and take one small step at a time.

Answer 3

Take it easy. Your family love you and they want you to be the best always. I have two kids of my own and I know what they mean. I think the best thing for you to do is just sit down and tell them what you wrote above. Express your self directly to your family and always remember the Internet is not the best place to make friends. I am sorry about your parents my father died a in 1999 and I know how it is. It is the same feeling even if you are older. So go talk to them and explain clearly how you feel and you will find out how much they really love you.

Answer 4

I feel for you. You sound so mature for such a young age. You have been through so much already and for you to maintain a b average is great. There is not much I can say but that your grandparents love you and want the best for you. Maybe you should just tell them how hurtful it is when they compare you to a woman twice your age. Please, don't even think about running away. It is much worse out in the world alone at 12 and harder to survive. You do have grandparents that love. It's hard to see the positive right now but it will get better. I know you can make it!

Answer 5

Buck up and get over it. Life is worse after you are out of the house, so if you don't get over yourself (only child), then you will never survive the real world.

Run away? Good one, your life will be even better won't it? Yeah, that sounds like a good idea, try it and find out how hard your life will be. I'll tell you who will be waiting for you on the streets, pimps, rapists, murders, thieves, disease.

I love the teens who run away to Hollywood, have you ever seen this city of depravity? Nothing like what they show you in the movies or on TV. Everything I listed above awaits you there and in every city.

So, a roof over your head, food on the table and a little overbearing grandparents don't sound so bad now does it? Be appreciative that they took you in and didn't send you to the Almighty Government to take care of you.

Be appreciative and buck up.

Answer 6

Don't listen to what all these negative people are writing to you. A lot of kids go through difficulties when trying to please their parents or, in your case, their grandparents. Believe me, I was one of them. Talking to your school counselor is a good idea since he/she is trained in this sort of thing, but don't run away. Running away will just cause more problems in the long run. They will end up not trusting you and things might get worse. Write them a letter about what you're feeling and give it to them right before you leave for school. Then, they will have the day to think about it without you around and and they might be more willing to talk about it when you get home. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. :) :) :)

Answer 7

ok calm down. take a deep breath. i think i can help.
if you come home with a b, don't tell you grand parents yet. sit them down and say ok i got a b. and if they start yelling and screaming just sit there like a adult and be calm. don't get into as fight back. you will have too be an adult here. tell them that you will study harder next time. and everything will be ok. and even if you are really steaming mad inside even if you do not want too go up too them and give them both a hug. tell them you love them. even if you don't want too. then say that you will try too do better next time. i think it is great that you are doing stuff that you love. next time you have a play invite your aunt(even if she doesn't come) and invite your grandparents. so that they can see how great you are on stage! get them little gifts sometimes too show how much you do love them. it might be hard but just deal. be the adult. tell your grandma that you want too get stuff too make apple pie with! tell her that you want too take sometime out with her on a saterday and do that with her. tell your grandpa that you want too go fishing with him. or help him with things he likes too do. take a walk in the park with both of them. then they might go easyer on you. talk too them. do things with them. call your aunt and set a date that you 2 can go shopping! or have a movie night. don't run away. YOU can turn this into something great. be the adult. be calm. if you need too e-mail me you can. i hope i helped you.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear of your loss and the overbearing family.You seem like you've got one hell of a head on your shoulders and you need not listen to them.Unfortunately,you're getting an undeserving crash course of life.Do for yourself,stay positive and hold more value to what you know is important.You're almost there,6 more years and you'll be outta there.Get a job when you turn of age,save up all the money you can and get away.You're gonna have a wonderful and succesful life yourself sweety,Believe that and remain positive all the time and you're gonna do fine.Stay strong.

Answer 9

honey no one can say your situation is easy to deal with. But think this way, you have lost your parents at a young age, thats really hard. But in natural order, you were supposed to lost them sometime along the way(not easy not easy) but your grandparents lost their children which is not natural way, so it is very hard for them too. Of course you are who you are. They probably are a little hard on you b/c they want to see you in good places in the future and they dont know how to handle the situation.

Answer 10

I'm not sure what to say. It's alot of pressure at your age and nothing I say will really help. It WILL get better and running away isn't going to solve anything.

Instead of being pressured by your parents, you'll have to worry about finding a place to sleep at night and food in your stomach. You'll have to worry about dying because you're exposed to the elements, and about people on the street raping you for their own pleasure.

Please don't run away. I know it's hard but it will get better. Things seem worse than they really are right now because of how young you are. Please be strong. Eventually, it won't matter anymore.