My mom just went through a lot of old junk that I'd been keeping around her house and among the discoveries were a few old drawings my ex-boyfriend had done and given to my while we were together. I know he'd love to have the originals back because I know he's still proud of his artwork (I recently stumbled upon an online journal of his and he has scanned copies of the art displayed)... but I really don't want to have anything to do with him anymore. He was.... let's just say "very mean". I'm glad I got away and I was hoping never to see him again.
Now I'm torn... should I suck it up and contact him and be a good person even though he doesn't deserve it or should I spare myself the pain and just throw them away (he'll never know what he's missing anyway)?
I don't know what to do...... I'd appreciate any advice. Thanks.
2006-10-12 10:10:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't have a mailing address... of course I could probably contact him via the internet and ask him for an address without ever actually having to speak to him...
2006-10-12 10:30:50 · update #1
Easiest solution (i'm sure you've thought of this), any type of mailing or forwarding address? If not, take another easy way out and sucker a friend into returning them, OR if you know where he lives, leave them in an envelope on his doorstep. If NONE of these work, toss 'em, guilt-free. You did all you could! Best of luck.
2006-10-12 10:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by renny08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know you will return his artwork. Its all this residual pain rising up that makes it difficult. It's the thought of going through the physical process of returning his stuff and hating the thought of it.
Box it up. Ask yourself if you know any of his old friends or parents, someone to whom you can send the box. I can tell that you don't want to contact him and I'm not sure that you should.
If you don't have an address. What about letting your mom or a friend handle this for you? Most of us know someone who will step in and help. Just let them contact him and return the artwork. Tell them you don't want to know what he said and you don't want to know where he is, just tell you that it's done.
Also, there is nothing wrong with just letting the box sit a bit while you make a decision. I'm not even telling you to return the artwork, because it is the right thing to do. It's more that I sense you are not the type of person to feel good about taking that step. I think it might eat at you in the future and it's better just to take care of it and move on.
Peace,
Laura
2006-10-13 13:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Laura D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go...the more you think about you will keep going round in circles...and on thing will lead to another. save re-living the pain and just pretend you hadn't dicovered it in the first place. Your a good person anyway i'm sure ...not returning his artwork wnt suddenly change that.Pleas let go or you'l get hurt.take care
2006-10-12 10:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous answers. Mail em or get a friend to contact him. Drop em off at his doorstep, anything to avoid having to see or talk to him.
2006-10-12 10:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of you need to drop the stuff off at his porch, once you already know he wont be domicile, and only stroll away. positioned it in a bag, or 2 if mandatory, and only depart it their. this is only such as you're leaving the memory of your relationship on his porch, so he has to handle it! stable luck!
2016-12-08 13:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you have someone give it to him or maybe you can mail it to him. just make a small note.
I found these and I know you wold like them back.
Sincerely...
Be nice, it pays.
2006-10-12 10:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by nv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know his address, send it Fed ex to him,, no pun intended, enclose a small note. THE END.
2006-10-12 10:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Whoa_Phat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mail them to him. That way you don't have to see him. Roll them up in a tube.
2006-10-12 10:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd just mail them back and not say anything at all.
2006-10-13 05:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by kermit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he had your things would you want them back...you dont have to be with him have a friend go with you and meet him somewhere safe
2006-10-12 10:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by dogfaceboy626 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋