so i have this friend who i really like. i cant keep hanging out with her knowing well never be more than friends. i asked her out a year ago but she said no. i kind of get the vibe she likes me now but i cant know for sure. should i just flat out ask? should i try asking her out again? i know that i cant keep hanging out with her knowing well only stay friends. so what should i do?
2006-10-12 10:09:34 · 11 answers · asked by cronaldo17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should try asking her out again. It would be nice to just flat out ask her, but most of the time their in denial.
2006-10-12 10:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, dear...i've been there. (trust me i know what i'm telling you). So i've had "guy friends" who after a while of hanging out, they want to start dating...a girl knows if she'll EVER date a guy. And some guys think "if i hang out with her long enough she'll eventually fall for me" ---- that's not true.
To answer your question, i think you should take another shot at it. Ask her again. If she says no again...she'll never say yes to dating you. And it should be clear to after this, because if she said no a year ago, and says no again...my bet is that if you ask her a third time a year from now....she'll say no again.
And i bet you don't want to waste your time with someone that will never return your feelings. Life's too short sweety, there's has to be someone that won't make you work so hard just to get your foot in the front door.
I wish i could know how it turns out for ya. Good luck though!!!
2006-10-12 17:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Melly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, ask her flat out.
Then deal with it for few days if she says no, cry, drink beer, play sports, whatever you do to relieve tension.
Then, call and say yes just friends is ok. Maybe she will introduce you to one of her friends even. Maybe that will be a better match.
Anyway, you ask, she says yes or no, thats how the game works. Everybody knows the rules , at least most of the time. Play the game or sit home.
2006-10-12 17:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one...My friend is in the same situation as you...he has liked my other friend for three years...When I first met him...I could tell right away that he has a thing for her..and she has a thing for him...The only problem is...she has a boyfriend...however...this summer...they became really close...anyways...long story short...they should go out...but she is scared that if he leaves her boyfriend...he won't want her...Mu friends are perfect for each other...but she can't see that...everyone sees it but her...
but things change...she might have devolved feelings for you...that are more than friends...and she might not have...you have to just take a chance...you only live once...and if you don't tell her how you feel..and ask her out..than you will never know if she was the one..and you will have that in the back of your head...wondering what if...you only live once..."This is your life, and it’s ending one minute at a time."
People change..feelings change...it happens all the time... "Sometimes the perfect person for you is whom you least expected it to be."
Good Luck...
:)
2006-10-12 18:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her, what do you have to lose? You already asked her once and you're still around. I know it's hard when a person you like rejects you but it's not the end of the world. If she says no you just pick up and move to the next girl, there will be plenty of others out there who would love to be with you.
2006-10-12 17:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think more about whether what you are saying about your feelings is true or not. Is it true that if she won't have a "relationship" with you that you won't be her friend, because saying that to her will seal it. You have to give serious thought to the consequence this conversation may have. If you really care for her, you should be able to be a little more patient.
2006-10-12 17:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her 1 more time and if she says no and you believe it is right to end such a long time friend relationship then go for it.i think you might be the possive type.
2006-10-12 17:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, shes already made it clear to you that she dosent like you - stop living dreams and stay away from the poor lass. Get over it.
2006-10-12 17:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by pennines123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...well she mite just be frontin like sayin she doesnt like u wen really she do..but u know u could be wrong bout her likin u like she mite just be teasein u cause she knows u like her.....but also she could just be like weird out that u like her cause yall is friends and stuff so she's just trying to act all like it doesnt bother her..so i guess i wouldnt ask her out but it never hurts 2 try again
2006-10-12 17:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Bri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her! but be ready for the answer it might not be good or bad. but at least you know what's in her mind. goodluck!
2006-10-12 17:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋