She is a good kid but her teacher called and said she is missing 4 assignments and a quiz. She is normally a very good girl.
2006-10-12 10:05:27 · 17 answers · asked by diego~girl 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Take away TV, video games, telephone, everything extra cirricular until she does her homework.. Make her show you a list of what her homework is every night and then make sure that she has completed all her assignments.
If she hasn't completed them, then take away all of her priveleges until she does her homework.
2006-10-12 10:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Punishment isn't really the issue here. Helping your daughter do her homework is. Talk to you daughter and find out if there's a problem. Is the work too difficult, does she feel lost? Remember kids do stuff wrong for a reason (sometimes very dumb reasons!) and if she's a good kid give her the benefit of talking about it with her. At 11, she's old enough to help come up with a plan to get the work done. Perhaps a meeting with your daughter and her teacher would be beneficial. Remember, homework is a "contract" of sorts between the teacher and the student. The parent's support that contract. Working with the teacher, you all might come up with some good solutions to help your daughter be faithful with the work she's expected to do.
There are lots of techniques like asking you to sign off on work done, a weekly "report" from the teacher, asking the teacher to let you know of work assigned so that you can oversee your daughter, etc. But helping her develop good study habits is a lifelong tool that you'll be giving her. And if there's a reason that it isn't happening (other than that she's too busy with other stuff or can't be bothered) being listened to will help boost her self esteem.
You've said your daughter is a good girl. Make sure through this process that she knows you really believe that! This is a hitch, a minor problem and it doesn't change how you feel about her, how you admire her for her good qualities. As a parent, you're helping her sort things out. Stay positive- even if you work things through and she continues to have problems. If that happens then you have to follow through with the consequences that you and she can lay down together in your earlier talk times together.
God bless you and good luck.
2006-10-12 11:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shoshanna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to her. Find out why she's slacking off. Is she not doing the homework, or does she do it but not turn it in? If the latter, why not? Is someone at school bullying her? If she's normally a "very good girl," it could be that something's bothering her. Try to find out what. Or, it could be hormones kicking in and you're getting a preview of teenage rebellion.
At any rate, set aside a specific time every day to do homework. For my 11-year-old, as soon as he gets home from school and has a snack, he has to hit the books. No TV, no video games, no friends until it's done. Some assignments are handed out well in advance, so on those he gets some slack time. But at some point, well before the due date, he gets reminders both at school and at home. If he still puts it off, privileges are withheld. Fortunately, he's always been very good about listening to reason so he knows that if he completes his homework during study period or on the bus ride home, he'll have more time for the fun stuff.
2006-10-12 10:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by fyrfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unplug her. Sound just like what it is. Also - have a talk with her. What are her reasons for not having those assignments and the quiz? If the answer is what I think it is (skipping) than I would pick a day and come into the classroom and sit in it with her. When the day was done I'd then pack her things for her. Shel'd be so embarressed but she'd also know you are serious about her education and that you follow through with punishments. She'd never forget another assignment again, either.
2006-10-12 12:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by puzzleraspie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to ask yourself is WHY is she not turning in her homework.
Depending on the reason, there are differing responses to the situation.
If she CAN'T DO the homework, then help her understand the work, if you can't help, find some-one who can. Once she understands the work, encourage her to catch up with her homework.
If she WON'T DO the homework because she doesn't want to, then you would deal with that differently. Take privileges away, or have her spend time in her room or in the kitchen with you until she gets all the work done!
Good Luck - remember, parenting isn't for cowards!
2006-10-13 12:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took all privileges away, and that still didn't work. So, we met with the teachers and they agreed to ask for a note from him every day and they would mark whether he turned in his work or not. That would remind him to turn it in. Hell of it was, he was doing the work right in front of me at the kitchen table. Why do it and then not turn it in? When he kept losing the paper for the teachers to sign, I said I would take a few days off and go to all his classes with him. That fixed it for a while, but they just go back into their old habits.
2006-10-12 10:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the teachers have implemented some sort of punishment. In my opinion, there is way too much assigned so I wouldnt blame her.
2006-10-12 13:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the back end of brass buckle on a leather belt to her backside.
No I'm just kidding, I put that to get your attention.
I'd do this, find out what it is that she was meant to be studying, then keep asking her questions about it, everytime she gives you a 'dunno' or 'dont care' or similar reply she forfeits something until she can demonstrate an adequate knowledge in the subject.
Run out of items? Use her free time instead, load her up with housework, find chores etc.
2006-10-12 10:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by jason12211 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As both a parent and teacher I think there is way too much homework. But, since it is assigned I expect my kids to do it.
For something like this my eleven year old would get paddled.
2006-10-12 12:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take away the phone, the TV, hanging out with her friends, all her extracurricular activites, her stereo, non-homework computer use (so sit there with her when she needs to use the computer for homework to make sure that's all she does), and anything else she enjoys doing until she does it.
That's what my mom did and I HATED it and we fought about it, but I did my homework.
2006-10-12 10:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just forgive her for this once and you and you dauther could do her assignments with you so you can se that she gets them done! Also you and you dauther can study for the quizes she has!
I hope this helps you to think of a punishment for you dauther!!
2006-10-12 10:17:39 · answer #11 · answered by Spring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋