how should you deal with it when you wish for a different life other than the one youve got?

Question

all i think of all the time is that, i dont work, have never worked, because of my mental problems, i live in an area thats causing alot of misery, its very noisey, very rowdy, very intrusive, lots of youths roaming about & shouting their buisiness across the street, aggressively. im 29, i live in the uk>i dont wanna live in the uk ), i wanna live somewhere quiet near the coast, i wanna job, i wanna be able to cope with life, i wanna live in a nice home, i wanna meet somebody nice, i wanna live somewhere else. in another country. when will all this come i wonder?? how am i gonna get there when im in this never endin rut now??. i havent got money, so i cant just transport myself somewhere to my liking.>i have very such low self worth about myself, very low self esteem, feel ashamed of myself and not as good as others, i struggle to make friends or get a relashionship with any girl>i think how could any girl want me with my problems living in a crappy flat with no money feelin like this

Answer 1

For whatever reason...you are consumed with yourself...I think it is OCD, myself...the obsessive thoughts that you cannot for the life of you get rid of...If you read you questions...you will see that you repeat the same concerns over and over again...this kind of mental thinking is not your fault,..but is truly mental torture for you...You need to get some different meds..as the ones you are currently taking are causing you problems....Until you can find it in your heart to truly forgive those who put you in this position i feel you are going to suffer..and also...you need to try something as your meds might be causing you the problems in the first place...I think you should go to the hospital asap if you are NOT happy with the diagnosis and help that your new doctor is going to give you...I would go in and be re-evaluated and really tell them how you feel....even show them this website,and let them read the concerns you have vented...God Bless you stage fright...My prayers are with you.

Answer 2

Start with small changes. Keep negativity totally out of your life whether on TV, radio or someone's dreary tale. Use good hygiene, go out for a brisk walk when the weather allows. Check things out like you've never seen them before, especially nature. If you have feelings of shame, talk to a therapist. We all want the things that you do. Some of us have them, some of us don't, but that doesn't mean we don't deserve them. Chin up.

Answer 3

you're fortunate to have one among those wonderful stepdad. i don't even consult with mine and that i stay in the comparable homestead as him and he's been in my existence when you consider that i became 3/4... i'm now 14 and a 0.5.