I am planning to take a last minute trip out of town. I wanted to ask my cousin (he is older than me) if I could stay at his place for a couple of days. I called and left two messages and he has not returned my calls. I also left a message with his son. In the message I did not say that I wanted to stay over, but I did explain why I was traveling to their area. I have been out of touch with them for about 8 years. I lived near them in college, then spent many years out of the country. I spoke to my cousin's wife once last year. I inititated the phone call, just to catch up. So I am wondering if it is out of place (assuming they return my phone call) for me to ask if I can stay with them. When I spoke to my cousin's wife last year, she said the next time I was in town I could stay with them. But I called them last night, and still haven't heard back, so I am wondering if I should even ask them when/if they call back. Or is it better to just see if they invite me over?
2006-10-12 09:51:21 · 6 answers · asked by Yoshi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
With the exception of emergencies concerning family issues (death), you should never ask if it is ok to stay with someone..family or not. ANd when you have had so little contact with the person, you should not go looking for it, so to say. My adivce would be to make hotel reservations. Call your cousin again and let them know you will be in town, when and where you are going to be staying. If they are really hoping to have you as a guest, they will call and offer. Otherwise, once you get to town (if you haven't heard from them) call again and see if they would like to get together. If you still fail to get a response, go on with whatever brings you to the area...and know that you will need to havea place to stay if you find yourself in town again.
2006-10-12 10:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait and see. If you had been in touch- no problem to just come out and ask but not been close, I would say wait. Different if being in the area they invite you over.
2006-10-12 16:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by nv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to much distance in between. I would let them know I am coming that way and would like to spend some time, but I wouldn't ask to stay there, Get a room and enjoy your privacy.
2006-10-12 16:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ms T in GI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the circumstances it's always rude to invite yourself anywhere.
2006-10-12 18:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is rude get a hotel and see if you can visit him.
2006-10-12 16:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please try to pay your way.his situation may not be conducive to take you in.call them back when you don't need anything from them.
2006-10-12 16:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋