My boyfriend and myself have been living together for 7 months. We had a huge fight 4 nites ago because I snooped in his email and found a conversation with another woman planning to meet her after he'd denied trying to meet anyone. I have not heard a word from him since then. He accused me of betraying his privacy, what about my trust?
2006-10-12 09:50:45 · 34 answers · asked by medlady22558 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you snooped. So what! You two should be open books for each other. He's a cheater. Dump him. Move on. Find a real man.
2006-10-12 09:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did you snoop in his email? You did betray his privacy, but he also betrayed your trust. Did you have an agreement that he wouldn't see anyone else? Could he have met this other woman and NOT be cheating? Depends on what your agreements are together.
Remember also, that he was doing something he didn't feel good about, and his way to make himself right is to get angry at you for doing something that HE felt was not ok. Admit that you shouldn't have looked in his email, but that doesn't excuse the truth..that he was planning to meet someone else.
2006-10-12 09:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by loriahaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever,ever, and I mean ever, snoop! Take away a guy's privacy, it's a big no-no in his eyes, no matter what u saw. On the other hand, you had luck, because you discovered something u weren't supposed to. Of course he hasn't talked to you yet, he's still upset about you snooping around. Try to have a conversation with him, u were both wrong. See how he behaves, what he tells you...just to put closure. And then DUMP him, he's not trustworthy. And next time, don't snoop, just be upfront about everything. Trust me, it's better.
2006-10-12 09:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by pope1882 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this were a film, he'd be planning some huge surprise party for you and this woman is the organiser. Unfortunately, unless you've got Steven Spielberg hanging around you, this is real life and if he's lying to you and he's lying about another woman, it is highly likely that he is organising a completely different type of surprise. This is always going to play on your mind so you need to decide whether you're going to discuss with him and get to the bottom of it - it appears that he's trying to take the moral high ground, which is one way of avoiding a question - or you need to end it. Like I said, you're not going to forget about this and when you have doubts about your partner betraying you, that is very damaging to a relationship. Good luck.
2006-10-12 09:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, what about your trust? Why did you read his e-mail? Simple you had doubt in your mind. Ppl usually only do that sort of thing if they're looking for sommet. He's got some right to be annoyed, I know I was when it happened to me.
On the other hand it doesn't look too bright from his side of things. The meeting maybe completely innocent, he's just hiding it from you so you don't get jealous. I know, I know, really dumb thing to do as you'll be more suspicious (as you are now) when you find out. Ask him outright. If you don't get the answer you want maybe it's time to re-think the relationship.
All the best!
2006-10-12 09:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you've got a problem. Trust is a relative word, something that is given, not earned. If you snooped in his email, I'd bet you were already suspicious that something wasn't quite right, and your suspicion was justified. Now that you know, don't distrust your own judgement. The guy is a cheat and a sneak, both to you and whoever he was planning to meet. Consider yourself lucky to have gotten out with this little emotional damage. Let him go, and let yourself breathe easy.
2006-10-12 09:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute you started checking his e-mail, you had suspicions. Any time a man or a women checks a wallet, phone numbers, or e-mails the trust has disappeared long before the actual finding. All you want is honesty, you don't want to be in a relationship where there is deception. Have a talk with him, but now since he has already been dishonest, are you ever going to be able to trust him? Look out for yourself.
2006-10-12 09:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I don't want to hurt you by saying this but if its barking its a dog. If you found him making plans with another woman and he denied this, then not only is he a cheater, he's also a liar. You of course already know this because you are an intelligent woman. Now do what you know is right. Leave his sorry *** and find someone deserving of your affection.
2006-10-12 09:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he can be cheating on u...what a bastard...man your his girlfriend and ya'll live together why would he do that to you...if he is so guilty and chatting with a girl about meeting her somewhere and then denying it he is so cheating on you....If you think he is hurting u so bad then I think u shouldn't be with him because you don't want to always go through that kind of stuff every day...you know what I mean...do what is best for u and the best for u is to not get hurt...find somebody that will love u and be honest with and only u
2006-10-12 09:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by vickyg_892008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a damn snoop! Mind ur own freaking business. Just like a woman, too. He's probably having a great time with the other woman. I'm sure you'll take him back though. Happens all the time.
2006-10-12 09:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Eldude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋