I hate them so much, he's in the hospital and all they can do is gossip?

Question

My friend tried to kill himself. He's in the hospital. Just found out now. I want to go see him but under circumstances can't. ( he and I are in culinary school) In school everyone was whispering and all that crap. then I heard one of our school mate talking to another about him ( sucide friend ) She was saying that he is selfish, and was a cry for help or something like that. How can they say that. He's depressed and he almost died and all they can talk about was that he is a psycho and that I should stay away from him for he can hurt me. Why the **** do they have to gossip and all that crap. I found out this morning, but don't know anything. He's my friend. I hate them

Answer 1

Just ignore them and be there for your friend .. right now he needs you

Answer 2

First of all it was a cry for help. He may have felt no one could help him so it was better to die. That is sad. Many emotion fly around in a person's head before they get to this point and maybe no one heard his cry for help. I mean that by how he handle things or reacted to things. Sometimes not even a person's closest friends and family knew or could even imagine they had issues. It's a good thing he was found and saved. Now his problems are out in the open and maybe he'll find the help he needs. It is a selfish act and the person who tried to kill himself may have not even thought that far. Selfish by the means of he didn't think of who he was hurting if he died or if someone even cared if he did. You don't what was going on in his mind to get that far and neither do they. Sometimes it's how people deal with things, not that it's the right way but their way. If he didn't want the attention he wouldn't have done it. It really is true. He wanted someone to rescue him from something. Heartache, loneliness, failure, etc. Just be his friend and listen to him. He may have needed to get there to come to terms with something. It's not the right way but he may have not known how to change. Don't be angry at those people be angry and glad with your friend. He was about to make you a guest at his funeral, I doubt he cared about that at the time. For this, be angry and tell him. Then tell him how happy you are that he didn't succeed because he means a lot to you as a friend. He needs to hear who he hurt and who still cares after it all.

Answer 3

Well to start off with People do talk that is just our nature. I realize that it is mean and cruel but it is just who we are as humans. I will ask you this have you ever had to bury a person that you loved with all of your heart who committed suicide? Believe me it took me years to even be able to talk about it. This is a selfish act it hurts a lot of people. I do agree that your friend needs help and hopefully will get it. However the person who actually said that could have been me. I would love to take a person who is planning suicide and walk them through the mess they leave behind. I understand that they are in pain and do not think that there is any other way out. However that one act can devastate the lives of an entire family and group of Friends. I hope your friend receives help and is well soon.

Answer 4

Some people just don't understand circumstances like this so instead of being empathetic for him they judge. It really isn't right and I think you should be angered by them. If it bothers you a lot tell them that they shouldn't judge him about something like this. It isn't their business in the first place.
The best thing you can do is be there for your friend. I know you can't visit him, but see if a nurse can give him a card or a small gift for you. He obviously feels alone right now and it would help a lot to have some one care.

Answer 5

They are way too immature to grasp such a sensitive issue - let alone deal with it - You must be there for him and not let these worthless nieve pple any of ur thought.. they are not worth it.. let the anger go. and be with him and tell him how much u love him and care about him.. even if u dont - u never know what can make a difference to someones choices about being in this world..
I wish u the best of Luck.. and I am sure u will get through it..

Answer 6

Try not to be too hard on others.. Sometimes talking about it is therapeutic and needs to get out in the open... You might want to mention to them that there are more constructive ways to talk about your friend and that it hurts your feelings to hear there gossip....
Maybe a grief counselor should be brought in.

Answer 7

If you dont know anything then how do you know he almost died, that is something, he has some mental problems for sure other wise he would not have tried to kill himself and he may be a danger to you.

Answer 8

Well they are not going to stop..
You need to stand up for your friend.He is in the hospital and they are going to make fun of him even worse , but you should burst they bubble and stand up for him..
He is a friend stand up for him..
But if it was me ...
I may have to throw a few punches and kicks...
But people are like that drama and they die for it.
I have rumors go around about me 1 a week.. it's funny how people are so into your life like an celeb but yeah stand up for him!

Answer 9

dearest cheer,this is not the time for hate but a time for reflection.i understand the way you feel but your friends have the right to deal with the situation the best thy know how.take this time to send your friend healing prayers and thoughts and pray that he will come to know that God is in complete control.leave the thoughts of anger and fear behind and let God use you as his tool for healing for your friend and your school mates.all my love all my hopes and all my blessings i give to you.

Answer 10

i feel like you do BUT you have to understand that some ppl don't sympathize for those who try to end their own lives. just don't pay them any attention and be there for him when he needs you. since you can't go see him, send him a card and some flowers and balloons or something. just be a friend and don't worry about the ppl who aren't sympathetic towards him

Answer 11

First of all I am sorry about your friend. People are always going to gossip, but you know your friend and it sounds like you are a true friend! Don't listen to them, they are obviously inconsiderate.