I am friends with this man for about 11 months now. We are close but I am confused about his feelings. He cares about me and says he loves me but he says that he has a committ issue bec of his past marriage. He is divorced. he asked me out and this is what confuses me he said that he doesn't want to marry again bec of his past marriage. I never asked him about being married to him he brought it up. So a week went by an dI recieved an email for an invite to Rome, Italy from him and some of his friends in Nov. And then a few days later he send me this God's prayer chain letter. What is he trying to tell me... This is where you caome in. I don't get him.. Please help me
2006-10-12 09:22:11 · 16 answers · asked by italiansweetie6883 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ANd also he emails me to ask me when are we going to get together. 2 days ago.
2006-10-12 09:24:02 · update #1
i think that he is in love with you but he doesnt want to get married cause he is afraid that he will get hurt again. just spend time with him and maybe he will change his mind about getting married again.
2006-10-12 09:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by howdy19 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To respond I would like to say first that if his former marriage was so bad, his divorce so damaging, how does he have the finances to travel to Rome, Italy? He sounds confused in that he does not know himself very well, leads you on, and tries to make you feel as if there may be something to the relationship.
Tell him to have a nice time in Rome, Italy
2006-10-12 09:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is really confusing. Was he a religous person before, or is this something that has just developed? You can't dwell on worrying about what all this means. I would just continue to see and talk with him, but let him bring up the other issues like the marriage things, and chain letter? Weird!
2006-10-12 09:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Amber M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is wanting to plan things and spend time with you, that maybe all that he has to offer, He is being somewhat upfront about it, It did however take him a little to long to let you know about how he felt about marriage. I am sure that you have had at least one bad relationship and when you started dating again you've told the next guy you wanted to take things slow. Well that's what he wants, but his slow is forever. Good luck.
2006-10-12 09:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes a long time to heal from a divorce and broken heart. Sounds like he is very interested in you. If you feel comfortable with this idea, tell him not to worry and that you aren't looking for any committment right now. Give him some time to allow himself to trust you. In the meantime have fun and enjoy his company.
2006-10-12 09:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He cares about you, and enjoys spending time with you, but he is really just into the friendship scene of things at this point. If you are looking to get serious and be married, he is not the one for you, and he is not the one to pursue. I hope you meet and fall in love with someone else, and just keep this one as a friend. Blessed be.
2006-10-12 09:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He won't get married so if that's what you want it life, you'll have to find another man. Don't assume he'll change his mind or that you will change him. I don't know why you're confused: he doesn't want to get married, but if you're willing to date him on his terms, he'll keep you around. He told you this as a warning not to expect marriage from him.
2006-10-12 09:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are confusing. They are never sure of what they want and when they finally decide it is still unclear. You should just ask him if the relationship is going anywhere. He owes you that much not to keep you guessing about things.
2006-10-12 09:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by Shera W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess my first question would be, who's paying for your trip?
My next thought would be, If he wants to see you, invite him to where you are. Rather than accepting his invitation to Rome. That should give you some kind of indication how serious he is.
I tend to question both his motives and sincerity.
2006-10-12 09:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he just wants to be boyfriend/girlfriend. Just go with it if you want to. He probably just brought up the past marriage thing so you would know he doesn't want to get that serious. I wouldn't worry about it. It just sounds like he wants to date you.
2006-10-12 09:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋