My sister's 8 year old daughter talks back to me all of time and the tone of voice she uses is awful. I spoke to my sister about the problem and she got really defensive and threw me and my 4 year old out of her house. (I was actually babysitting for her at the time) She says I am being inmature and should deal with it. What do you think?
2006-10-12 09:20:27 · 18 answers · asked by carasmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That you and your sys have unresolved issues from your childhood?
Which firther complicates into sharpened relationship at this moment of your lives.
The problem is in both parties. You should talk, open and honesly
about whatever, for your part, you try to be patient, tolerant and listen to what she has to say. Don`t attack her and don`t assume defensive positions yourself. Try to lead the communication to calmer, more opened and positive path.
Communication is the keyyy
2006-10-12 09:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ateviel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the little brat should respect you just as I hope she respects her Mother. I have four grown kids, and I would never...not even now....Let them disrespect my family. Or my friends for that matter. She needs to learn this at a young age or she'll walk all over you as she gets older. And your sister should be backing your play when it comes to this. I think you need to try and talk to your sister about this further when the time is appropriate. And then the two of you need to talk to her daughter.
Little girls.....and believe me I know this for a fact....Can be very cruel. Especially if their Mommy lets them get away with it.
Put your foot down honey.....And demand some respect.
You're doing your sister a favour by baby sitting....she should be an adult and listen to you...
Much luck on working out this problem.....
P.S. My apologies for calling your neice a brat....Name calling was not my intention......
2006-10-12 16:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I discipline each other children. If she thinks mine are being a bit sassy she tells them and vice versa. Your sister is the one with the immature problem not you. Children should be taught not to back to an adult or a person of authority. If you are the care giver, I think you have the right to reprimand the child. Not punish, but let her know that this isn't expectable behavior and you don't appreciate it. .... I think you were in the right. Good Luck with you sister.
2006-10-12 16:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NOT put up with an 8 yr old talking the way you described. The fact that your sister will not put her in her place, is immature of HER!!!! Don't babysit for her anymore unless she can correct the behavior. I would also limit all visitations that the daughter attends.
2006-10-12 16:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by cey12000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if your sister is raising a little brat and doesn't have the courage to teach a small child good manners. You have every right to expect respect from a child - and your sister. The real problem lies with the sister, seems she doesn't respect you either or this wouldn't be allowed to continue. How can you deal with her rude child?
2006-10-12 16:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
practice your drop-kicks on the niece. If you kick it straight outta the ball park and lose it, try practising on the mother instead. Show your sister this response. If the brat is arrogant and self-centred, it WILL get the living daylights beaten out of it at some stage.
2006-10-12 16:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask your sister if she does that to her like my sisters kid is 5 and he talks back to me and i put him in time out but why dont your sister talk to her child and find out if its another thing entirely like if she is mad at you for soimething( the 8 year old)
2006-10-12 16:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kellie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she will be no help. You must handle this yourself. Kids understand a lot more than we think they do. Talk to the child, not the mother. Be careful not to scold or demean her, rather tell her how it makes you feel and how it makes her appear. She'll get it!
2006-10-12 16:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by matters 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That little girl needs to be more diciplined.Try to talk with your sister again.If she still doesnt get the point try having a few more people talk to her about it but not hint you told them to.That way she will hopefully see she needs to do something.
2006-10-12 16:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I wouldn't baby sit for her anymore. Try talking to her when your not so emotional. Emphasize that your not attacking your niece. Do tell her that you love her and her children, but you would appreciate it if your niece would have some respect for you as her aunt and as an adult.
2006-10-12 16:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋