I have to kids that love my boyfriend and he cheatted on me once how do you learn to trust him again? What would you do
2006-10-12 09:08:49 · 23 answers · asked by Baby Mercedes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd dump him and focus on raising my children and having a stable life. Guys are good for dates, but I wouldn't let them meet kids I already had. No point in serious relationships at that stage.
2006-10-12 09:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Conniebug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love would make up put up with some stuff. Your not going to leave so don't act like you will. Ya'll need to talk about let him k now how you feel with out crying or showing him that you are mad, and walk away and give him a kiss on the cheak. What you have to do is train you heart so if it happens again you know how to deal with it. Either he will stop or he won't. But see when you get tired of his cheating *** and ready to walk away without looking back he will be as sick as a dog with worms.
The kids, man, the kids. You don't want to see them suffer, but you don't want them to see your ol'mna coming and going. One day he keeps mommy happy one day he doesn't . Whatever ya'll decided keep it away from the babies until ya'll are sure.
2006-10-13 08:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Heaven 2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him....your kids love YOU before anyone else so don't think that you have to put up with his cheating ways just because your kids are comfortable with him....if you start questioning the level of trust that you have for him then there's really no point in hanging around....take care of your heart as well as your kids...good luck...
2006-10-12 09:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jaybird21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well learning to trust someone after he has cheated is a big thing to accomplish. it will take time on your part because you will be suspicious of everything and everyplace he goes wondering if he is out with someone. if you love him enough to try and make it work then it will take both of you together to get thru it . I had this happen to me and I tried to make it work but the trust never came back up to that initial level and things just dwendled.
2006-10-12 09:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by chocolatefancier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to stop calling him your boyfriend... betrayal is a deal breaker and,unfortunately, your kids are caught up in this one. You don't have to "learn to trust" him. If he is willing to grovel, change and "earn your trust" again, perhaps you can find it in your heart to forgive him... but this will take a very long time, and might never happen at all. God bless... especially the kids.
2006-10-12 09:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by juju 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if you don't have trust in the relationship there is no way it will ever work. Once something like this happens, even if you want to make it work it will always be on the back of you mind. Your relationship will never be that same way it was.
2006-10-12 09:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Amy D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no girl, I'm a straight man, but if I was in your shoes..... I would forget about that guy, doesn't matter if my kids like him; if he cheated on me once, he can (and most likely will) cheat on me again.
2006-10-14 15:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy_m_espana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump his azz, cause if he did it once and you forgave him 9 times out of 10 he'll do it again. Unless he's relly sincere and aplologizes. Me personally, i would dump him. There's no excuse for cheating. I say if you want to sleep with other women, go ahead be my guest, but you'll do it w/o me. Your kids will eventually get over it.
2006-10-12 09:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mizz Peni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just your BOYFRIEND not your husband, get rid of him ten to one he has cheated before, he just got caught this time. Oh and by the way kids like everyone they don't have this built in mistrust like us tainted adults. If he hurts you he is hurting your children too. DUMP HIM now before too much time is invested and waisted.
2006-10-12 09:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
once the trust has gone thats it i am affraid its down hill from then on i would call it a day but try and stay mates for the kids sake
2006-10-12 09:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋