After offering to take a lady to the fanciest restaurant in town, (One where I'd have to make reservations), and after she already agreed to do something with me, anything. Whether it was getting dinner, a movie, coffee, going bowling.....But especially this dinner...Suddenly she isn't so sure....Tells me she'll call back with an answer, and then doesn't seem to have time......Where did I go wrong? I hadn't even been on a date with her yet, and I offered to take her to the nicest place in town. She was eager at first, and I was never over bearing, always let her call me....So what happened?
2006-10-12 08:53:24 · 26 answers · asked by Matsukaze 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gonna add some details here.
At first, we had planned to do other things, such as pool, a movie, or the bowling alley.
The first time, she called, and asked if we were still on for that night, I said, "Sure". Then she said she had to check on something, and would call back. She never did. So I called, asked her what happened, she lied about calling back.
She than said she'd have time the next day, something else came up, again, no call back.
On the third day, I called, and asked if she would like to go to dinner. Said that I could make reservations, not too late, whatever would best suit her schedule....Even after that, I couldn't really get an answer from her. I told her it was ok, and if she wanted, she could call me when she wanted to do something.
Been over a week, haven't heard from her.
2006-10-12 09:38:16 · update #1
people are so fickle. maybe she is starting to date someone else or is just nervous. there could be several reasons. anyway, that isn't really a very nice thing for her to do, so save that fancy restaurant for someone who is really going to appreciate it and give you a sure answer. maybe the fancy restaurant freaked her out in the first place. who knows...women are confusing sometimes
2006-10-12 08:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by cheekybrit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ask her if she'd like to go some where more casual. Fancy is nice for a later date. Women are self conscious and have a hard time eating in front of men. Some do anyway. A fancy place means she has to spend more time picking out her clothes and more time contemplating what she shouldn't eat in front of you and so on. Do something more simple where the two of you can just have fun. Maybe even make it a group thing that can take the edge off. Take her bowling or do something out of the ordinary like find out the kinds of things she's into and then do something along those lines. She will be impressed if you put some thought into and not money. She might not be impressed by someone who thinks they are showing off their money. I can't say this is how she feels but these are just some ideas. Go ahead and call her and just mention that you could do something else if she wanted. Heck, let her pick. Good luck!
Wish I had met you, i've been with my husband for over 2 1/2 yrs and he has yet to ever take me on any kind of date let a lone a fancy place.
2006-10-12 15:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a girl, i think the fancy restaurant scared her, if it was something casual like a game of putt putt (miniature golf) golf or bowling with mutual friends would have been light and easy and there would have been no awkwardness. But the fancy diner says one of two things: im really into this and I want a relationship now or I wanna have sex with you so ill pay a lot of money for you and then you better have sex with me. I know you thought it was a good idea but for a first date, it should ALWAYS be something fun, not serious.
2006-10-12 15:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like men..women are known to have cold feet. Maybe she's had bad experiences in the past with other guys. Dont judge her behavior as somthing you did..maybe she's just getting back in the dating thing.. Dont push her or question her decision. Just tell her it was an important dinner you planned out with lots of thought. But youre not angry she cancled, Maybe you can do it again some other time. Let her dwell on your thoughtfullness..she'll come around. And when she does just make sure she's going to show..before making an expecnsive dinner reservation. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-12 16:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are many possibilities and I suggest you start by expressing yourself to her. It's possible that she received a better offer (meaning someone she would rather go out with asked her after you two made plans), or that she misinterpreted your not calling her instead (it's not overbearing necessarily to pursue a woman) and thought you weren't interested, or any number of things could be going on here. You should like a cool guy--move on--there are plenty of women that would appreciate your making such an effort. Good luck.
2006-10-12 15:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah man first off the nicest place in town that make her feel presured dude dont ever take a women first word as written in stonne they are wishy wahsy and they dont say what they are think just what they are feeling at the moment. Second all the nicest place in town you have to get to know a person first this seem like a cry for sex you should take her to a coffe shop or a walk somewhere first get to know her first you dont need to spend money to get a women just listen to them REAL CAREFULY they have a language of there own and you just ave to pick up the signs good luck
2006-10-12 15:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she was caught off guard when you initially made plans and you saw it as her being eager?? who knows? good women don't really care THAT much whether or not they are going to the nicest eatery in town....
honestly here, if i really liked a guy i wouldn't have 2 billion excuses to not do something... but maybe 2 if i was that busy on a given week. and it has nothing to do with you if she's not too sure whether she wants to go on this date with you-- good looking, intelligent men get turned down, too:) so don't be down on yourself if this is the case.
just sit back and see what she does. you met her half way now it's her turn to get back to you.
2006-10-12 15:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by jami p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who the heck knows...did you ask her?
I'd start there if I were you. Maybe she got nervous because it's a fancy dinner....why not just do the bowling or coffee thing for the first date? Don't try so hard to impress.
2006-10-12 15:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Madikam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I can tell not to waste your money on someone you hardly know. Go out a few times, if you really like her and she's sweet, then start spending the money if you feel like it. Otherwise you'll end up with some tramp going out with you for what you can spend on her!! You should spend you time and money on someone special, not just any old gal!
2006-10-12 15:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she freaked out, maybe she's not single maybe she was involved with someone but on the verge of breaking up with him so her concious woke up abd she realized that it wasn't fair to the other guy..give her some time and she'll prolly call u and explain everything to u
2006-10-12 15:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by what goes around comes around 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋