so everyday, when we have time, my bf and i chat over trillian while at work. today, i left message after message after message, and after about 4 hours, i sent one and he responded "oh". so i asked if he was busy and he said "no, just talking with" a guy who used to work there. so ignored me all day, wouldnt even be curtious enough to say hello and then didnt respond to me the rest of the day. i'm pissed. that just really f*cking rude!
am i just over-reacting, or do you find that rude too?
2006-10-12 08:49:28 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JEEBUS- f*ck you. i deserve more rights than an a$$ like you. at least i dont dismiss people because of gender. you should rot in hell.
2006-10-12 08:52:17 · update #1
all i said to him was "morning sweetie" an hour later "hello?" an hour later "are you there" and then when i ask him if he's busy its just "no"? WFT! at least if i'm busy i say i cant talk now i'm busy. i just feel like he blew me off.
and ya know, some of us are talented enough to work and talk at the same time. its kinda like chewing gum and walking, i know some of you are too dense to figure it out, but really, the rest of us can actually do it!
2006-10-12 08:55:34 · update #2
i dont know if the guy was talking to him on-line, on the phone or in person. he has a tendency to show up at the shop and they chat, but i mean, if it was on-line, he can talk to more than one person at a time. and if it was on the phone, he can still type, i've seen him do it. and if he was in person, he could have been nice enough to just say, hey so-and-so's here, i cant talk now.
ARGH!
guys can be so frustrating and they wonder why we get so bitchy!!! stop treating us like we mean **** to you
2006-10-12 08:58:54 · update #3
and to the person who asked, we've been dating over 3.5 years and are practically living together. my dog even lives at his house.
2006-10-12 09:00:40 · update #4
Yah that would piss me off too! Don't feel guilty about being angry at him, but when you talk to him about it, try not to ***** and yell. Just explain how angry it made you. He'll be more prone to listening if you express yourself in terms of yourself, rather than him. Ex. how it made you feel, as opposed to what he did to piss you off.
2006-10-12 08:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You are over reacting. You don't own him. You aren't paying his salary. Do you have an agreement that you can not talk to anyone while you are at work, except each other? Yes he was rude, but the truth is that men see things different than women. Let him know that you were worried about him, don't make it personal. Remember it. You may need to use it later.
2006-10-12 08:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he could of been a little mroe curdious in explaining why. But it isn't a terrible offense. Let him know how you feel and why, that way he can better understand you.
On the other hand he is talkign to some one he hasn't seen in a long time. Would you rather have him condemin all other social activities and soley focusing on you? LOL you probabley said yes, but let him have his social life, as long as he is loyal. But let him know your peeved though, this is your life, your happiness is supreme.
On the other, other hand, your at work, stop screwing around lol.
2006-10-12 08:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not over-reacting; it is rude, and I've been with someone like that before. The problem is that he doesn't see things the way you see them so there's not much you can do. I don't think he's doing it on purpose - well I hope not - but it's not a big deal for him. There are two things you can do: dump him or just accept that you're both different and put up with it.
2006-10-12 08:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the rude one you sound out of control like a crazy woman. The guy probably needs a break from you so yes you are over reacting don't you have someone else you can call or chat with and not bother him all the time? Men don't need to talk to his woman all damn day we need a break from you women. You didn't call him to ask for a nooner or a quickie just called to be a nuisance.
2006-10-12 18:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it is a little rude, but perhaps overreacting. maybe he was just busy or since you talk often on the messaging system maybe he just wasn't up to it that day. he might have wanted to concentrate on a conversation with someone else. i would get peeved if i wanted to talk to someone but they weren't really giving me a response. however, don't ever take these things too personally. there might be a day when you would be busy and wouldn't really be able to respond to him..would you want him getting really upset with you?? just a thought.
2006-10-12 08:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by cheekybrit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on his situation. He ignored you to talk to this guy, which means he put the guy before you, although he might not have seen him in a long time and just wanted to catch up on a few things with him. The first time you messaged him he should have told you what he was doing instead of just ignoring you and then telling you later, I am sure you would have understood.
2006-10-12 08:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Billys girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont see what the big deal is, he didnt answer you right away or he didnt want to chat,, I think you dont have a right, and you shouldnt be peeved,
life marches on pretty quickly,, no sense in getting worked up over the small things in life
2006-10-12 09:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i find that rude to and u two should talk and tell him that it made u feel like he doesnt have enough time for u and ask him why he couldnt pick up the phone for 2 sec. just to tell u hes ok and he dont feel like talking cause hes with this "guy". but yes i think u have the right to be mad
2006-10-12 08:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by nodaybuttoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on your end I can understand you being miffed cuz no one likes to feel blown off. On his end it is possible he didn't realize that you had been messaging because he was bs'ing with the old coworker and busy with work. No matter what I would ask for an explanation and tell him how you felt. Maybe if he realizes how hurt you got he won't be so oblivious to your messages.
2006-10-12 08:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he was rude. He should have sent a quick message to let you know he couldn't chat. Yes, you are overreacting. It's not that big of a deal. Yes, it sounds like you both need more work to do; you should not be paid for chatting with your boyfriend.
2006-10-12 08:53:13 · answer #11 · answered by Conniebug 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋