What age should you talk to your kids about the birds and the bees?

Answer 1

We did it a bit at a time, beginning when they began to notice that there was a difference - what is that, 3 or 4? You dont' talk about sex, but you begin to say, yes girls and boys have different bodies. The hard core of reproduction and intercourse they are already getting whiffs of that info by age 8 or so. Might as well tell them in general terms then, and then answer their questions with more and more detail as they get 10, 11, 12. Worked for us. Now they're all matter of fact about every aspect of it, including that one day their bodies will want it a lot and what impacts it can have on their lives, physically and emotionally.

Answer 2

anytime they ask!! Most kids will ask the "where do babies come from?" at about four (earlier if a new sibling is on the way). There are lots of books out there and I used them, but the rule of thumb is the younger the child, the more simple and basic the answer. "Babies come from inside Mommy's body." When they start to ask how the baby got there, again, keepit very simple..Mommy has eggs and a daddy has seeds, Put the two together and you get a baby!" As for the down and dirty, how sex works...that depends on a few things. Again if your child is asking, you should answer. Thinking they are too young and refusing to talk until they are older will usually result in them finding the information another way and when that happens you loose a chance to talk about personal values, choices and safety issues.

Girls should definitely have a talk by the age of 11 (the average age for the onset of menstration is steadily dropping). The idea ofa period is scarey enough without it just starting without knowing what it means (BTW...AMerican Girls have a great series of books for girls about the changes in thier body. Read it together and let your daughter keep it for her own reference).

Boys should probably have the talk about the same time. Remember though that just because they are not having sex, it does not mean your child has not discovered the idea of sexuality. Boys tend to discover masturbation in early adolescents, so once you think they have started exploring, it is a good time to talk about how normal the behavior is, hygene issues and a good way to ease into talking about sex in general.

The important thing is you do talk to your kids...honestly and openly. It can be a tough thing to do, but letting your kids know you will answer any questions they may have will go a long way once you have teens and young adults.

Answer 3

My parents never had that talk with me, and I turned out just fine. I learned a lot from peers, beuacse I honestly wouldnt' have paid attention to what my parents had said back when I was "supposed" to hear about it.

I figure the age could be anywhere from 10 to 14. Depends on how "wild" the kid is. When he/she starts running around alone with friends or becomming very interested in the opposite sex then you could bring it up in a very SHORT casual conversation.

I never went out with friends or cared about boys "that way" until I was 16, which may be why I never got the talk, but I remember hearing some of the party-type kids talk about making out, having sex or foreplay "activities" when I was 12.

Really, too soon and it will be forgotten. Too late and the kid may rebel against you on purpose.

Answer 4

8 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous already, and you have no longer started "the communique". Get moving female pal. My son got here abode whilst he became 5 and introduced "i understand all approximately intercourse now"...the 7 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous down the line had defined it to him. LOL. I truthfully have 2 little ones (22 and sixteen now), have constantly been very open and straightforward with them approximately intercourse. They ask, I answer, no vast deal. techniques is ability to make sturdy judgements. i'm sensing you're uncomfortable conversing approximately it, and that's a undertaking you are able to hit head on. yet keep in mind, the intercourse communicate could contain plenty greater suitable than the mechanics, it would contain the emotional factor, and adult males and ladies have constantly approached intercourse from 2 very diverse viewpoints. all of us understand that many little ones are having intercourse at present. 2 maximum necessary issues...a million). intercourse has person "effects", and till you're waiting for this you have no longer any company having intercourse. 2). secure practices, secure practices, secure practices. I make advantageous there are condoms interior the abode, and used the previous banana trick to ensure they knew a thank you to apply them! And by ability of how, there are some super books available (see link). the communique is an ongoing technique, no longer a one time deal.

Answer 5

I am a mother of 3 boys. I think the correct time to speak to your children is when they start getting curious. There is no age spam. Every child is differn't. I believe what affects our thinking and they way we think is the enviorment that they live in and what they have been exposed to. So if they start asking questions of that nature and you feel that there old enough to understand the meaning of it. Then just sit down and go for it. Nobody knows your children more than you. And for sure you don't want them asking questions some where else and getting the wrong answers. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Don't wait for them to ask, most kids never will ask their parents! And ideally you want to talk to them before they find out other ways. I'd aim for 11 or 12. You don't have to give them details at that young age, but since kids nowadays are even getting pregnant at 12/13, I would sure give them a good basic education on the subject. If more parents talked to their kids at a young age, maybe we'd have less babies having babies!

Answer 7

um..I would say when they hit puberty...you really cant give a specific age for that...cuz girls hit puberty really early sometimes or WAAAY late...boys usually are the last ones to hit puberty ya know? So....this is gonna sound weird but you have to figure out when they hit puberty....thats when you talk about it I would say...that way its not awkward or anything and you can fill in the blanks about their current stage (changing body)....it'll be easier on you that way too....guys are easy to tell cuz their voices get all squeaky..best to save the girls talk..to the mom or if mom isnt available an aunt or maybe a good friend of yours..good luck...hope that helps.

Answer 8

I have 3 children 2 girls and 1 boy. Ages 7,5,1. with the girls 7,5, I have aloud then=m to see me change pads, etc and I answer their questions on their age level. I've tried to be open with them so they will feel comfortable talking with me later. Their brother is 1 yr old and they had questions so I answered them. Letting them know this should only happen with thier husband because this is a very special gift that only their deserves to have.

Answer 9

When my oldest son was about 7, he came home and asked me what "sex" was. He had heard some older kids on the bus talking and was curious. I basically started with the Disney version, something very simple and as the years went by, his age and maturity determined exactly what I explained to him.

Answer 10

When they ask you about it. Just don't give too much detail when you explain it and use the proper language when explaining it. Not the birds and the bees, but "sex" or love making.

good luck.