Everytime in the last couple of months i get more and more turned on by my gf everytime im with her.And many times even when she's not there.Sumtimes ive to hide my...well u know the hard mass from her.Once she felt it when we were close...i tried to get her expression and it looked as if she was trying to hide a smile.I dint sak her anyhting as i was too embarassed.One time i cud cleraly make out wen she put her hand on it to c wheteher i had one and then quickly changed the topic.Now she's 18 and im 19.I dunno how to bring out this topic to her...coz i luv her and i dont want this to end with her thinkin im some pervert.i want this to continue.So shud i ask her to go for it as in u knwo the next step or shud i just keep quite?It's not that she's totally religious or anyhting it's just that everytime i picture even bringing out the topic i picture the worst .
2006-10-12 08:42:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she put her hand on it sounds like she's flattered that you get a hard-on when you're close with her.
Sounds like she's ready to go to the next step. You just need to make a move (believe me, any move will do if she's your girlfriend). If she is uncomfortable she will let you know, but it sure sounds like she won't.
2006-10-12 08:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by RivatricHistrionic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have been together for a quite awhile, but have obviously kept things slow, which is a good thing. there is nothing wrong with that. there must be a reason why you haven't. is she waiting till she is married? if you are going to bring up the best thing to do is make sure she does not feel pressured. reassure her that you are not just trying to take advantage or are trying to pressure her into going further, but that you do find her attractive and like her very much. the best thing for a relationship is communication, so although it could be awkward bringing it up, you have to. the next step doesn't necessarily have to be all the way, but let her know that you want to be affectionate with her because it is important to you. see how she feels. listen to her. it's really sweet that just being near her brings out something in you. that's a great sign. just discuss it with her. trust me, everything will be fine. don't let your fears stop you from finding out where your relationship is going and giving you chance to show how you feel and adore her.
2006-10-12 15:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by cheekybrit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you think you're willing to take things to the next level but only if she's comfortable with it. don't make her feel pressured. wait till she gets that little smile on her face whenever you get an erection again.
just ask her if she's wanting to get more physical. you'll know the right time. if you've been together foe 2 years you should be able to read her and know when it's ok to bring it up
2006-10-12 15:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say if every guy was like you, the world would be amazing. You've waited two years! thats great my boyfriends are all over me in a week its NOT romantic at all. anyway, casually bring up that you feel that you've really felt like you've grown close and bring it up, if she has a disgusted lokk on her face gradually ease the conversation into comfortable territory, if not, keep talking :)
2006-10-12 15:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep putting this much pressure on yourself, and you will certainly bring out the worst.
An erection is a pretty normal thing when you're with someone you're attracted to, and certainly nothing to be embarrassed over.
Just make sure when it happens, you have protection handy, or you will be opening yourself to even bigger issues.
2006-10-12 15:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by lowflyer1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she was checking IT out she wanted to see if she was turning you on....i say invite her to dinner at you house and eat. then just see where things go kiss her and stroke her hair and see how she reacts if she pulls away then just ask her "Is it too soon?" if she asks what your talking about (she knows but doesnt wanna say it) then just say somthing along the lines of "For us to talk it farther." Make her understand but respect her if she pulls away cuz she may not be ready. Also if it goes far before you do it make sure you ask her or say something like "i'm am not rushing you am i?" just so she will feel respected. Good Luck!!
2006-10-12 15:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by mybizyagottaknowthat2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, man, you are feeling just like any guy. Take a chance, i know its easy to say but hard to do, but you will never know until you tell her. And if it doesn't turn out to go the best, agree before hand to just forget about it
2006-10-12 15:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, you're not alone. Every guy and every girl in their lifetime has or will be in this situation one time or another. Welcome to the club.
Now comes the best part. If you love her and she loves you, talk about it and you might be surprised by the answer. However, if you guys move forward, be safe about it. Use protection. Lord knows we have enough teenage baby's mommas running around.
2006-10-12 15:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dave C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're 19 and youve dated for 2 years without having sex? am i reading that right???? Impressive. I dated somebody for 6 months and had sex with them at the age of 15. --and he was super religious. Ask her about it.
2006-10-12 15:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by RN806 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she shouldn't think you are a pervert or anything, she should know that it is a perfectly natural thing for guys to have when they are sexually excited or stimulated. if you have been together for 2 years then don't be shy about asking her, the worst she could say is no. then you'll have to respect her wishes and wait for her.
2006-10-12 15:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋