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Question

im 33 weeks pregnant and i feel lonely my husband work sometimes 12:30pm to 9:30pm and other weeks 8:30 to 5:30pm 6 days a week and i think its pretty normal time to work but sometimes i wish we could spend more time toghether the time he is homne we have a demanding 2 year and 1/2 how can i do to spend more time with him or at least make me feel i am ? It just that somethimes i want to be with him alittle more or a little longer thanks in advance for your respond

Answer 1

You are right to feel that way...it is normal being so heavy with child and have other responsibilites. He should be cutting back on his hours to be with you and child and certainly after the baby is born. You're job is more important than his at this time. Tell him you need him with you more...it is important to your mental well being. Only an ignoramus would deny you this.

Answer 2

I understand how you feel.I am 23 weeks pregnant and we also have a 6,4,3 and 10 month old.My husband is working out of state right now and will be for the next 2-4 months.He is gone for 10 days and then home for only 4 days.I too wish we could spend more time together cause I am tired of being alone and doing all the parenting.What we do when he is home is we put the kids to bed by 9:00 at night and then we go outside to look at the stars and then just spend a couple hours to our selfs outside or in our room just talking or doing other stuff.

Answer 3

have you voiced your feelings to your husband? If not then you should. I would suggest once a week or once a month what ever is best for you get a sitter and have a date night. Go see a movie or do something else you enjoy, even if you just go to dinner. Can't afford a sitter? Swap up with a friend that has small children- take turns watching each others children. I know it is hard to get time alone when you have small children. Good luck. Things will get better.

Answer 4

go out. find a sitter. Call the grandparents.

Try to stay up a little later together. put your 2 year old on an earlier sleep pattern so she's in bed an hour sooner. So you two can sit together.

Take a weekend night and go stay in a cheap motel.. lol. My husband works long hours 6 days a week. We take off for a little local motel every once in a while. It atleast changes the scenery.

Answer 5

See if there's any way you can plan the family time so that you're not too left out when the three of you are together. If you're at a park, the two of you can be side-by-side most of the time while kiddo plays; the 2 of you can follow the child around, or stand together whilst one pushes the swing. Something that helped me when I couldn't be in the arms of my beloved was to write. I wrote sexy love notes (hide them in the lunch, or in one of his pockets, or with the bills in his wallet), touching poems, or just letters full of small talk that he misses while being at work. Oh, boy, this brings back memories: trying to make whoopee without the little one catching us! Funny times, looking back on them!
I just remembered something truly vital: get a trusted sitter to hold the fort so you and pops can get away (anywhere) to do something (anything, but a 'date' is best) alone. Happy bonding, mamacita.

Answer 6

This is what I did. I made my husband take a whole day off from everyone and everything but me. I took our son to my moms to spend the night and I told him that this day would be all about you and me and that means no cell phones, no pagers and no checking it. I get that way to, where you just need sometime to be with him and you don't even care what you do, but you want his undivded attention all on you. It's works out pretty good. We spend a whole day either going to the movies, hanging out at home or going to the beach and relaxing. It's actually good for the both of you.

Answer 7

I sympathize. Mine works 2 full time jobs (4PM to midnight, then 12:45AM to 8:45AM) while I'm at home with a 3 month old. Sometimes he has weekends off, sometimes he doesn't. He gets mondays off, but he goes bowling with his mom. I'm not about to sit up with an infant in a bowling alley. you see your husband more than I see mine.

Take heart, he wants to be a good provider, and I know it gets lonely for you, but just hang in there.

Answer 8

I know it's hard sometimes sweet heart, but think about all of the women with men in the military. They go months without even seeing or talking to their husband. When you realize that you don't have it the hardest, sometimes it can put your situation back into perspective. Sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but, it's all about perspective.

Answer 9

Dear ,
All I could wish U Best of luck , I cound have answered more abt my exp but a women`s ans will be more comfortable more than a man.

Answer 10

Its hard for him to spend time with you with those hours but just think he is doing that to have money for you and your family.But talk to him he will find a way to be a little longer with you.Or just enjoy allot when his with you.