why do people judge teen mothers so they look down on them like they killed someone?

Question

i am not saying all teen mothers do what is best but some try to do what is right by going to school and working but it seems because they got preg. early they are judged so harsh people look down on them so hard cause they think their parents raise their kids or they are on gov funds.well they are some people without kids that watch on their check every month and stand in the food stamp line and they aren't looked down on like a teen mother

i understand that some teens try to have a baby but i know some adults that have kids that the grandparents have to raise cause they are hooked on drugs and can't raise their children some don't have jobs are choose a man over the children .
by the way i am 18 and i do have a 5 month old baby girl i don't consider myself grown i just think i am doing the best i can by myself and people are in a hurry to label me a bad mother because my age

Answer 1

I know that's right. I was a teen mom. I had my son when I was 16 years old. I never gave up. I stayed in school until the day my water broke. After my son was born I put him in day care and I continued to go to school. I graduated in 2002 with a 3.75 gpa. I am now 22 years old working a good job. My son is 5. I know i have done a good job. I never understood why people are so quick to judge a teen parent. There are adults out there who are very sorry parents, they dont even have there kids and like you said they standin right there in the food stamp line like they gotta kid to feed. To all the teen parents out there just keep your head up. Remember only god can judge you.

Answer 2

Most teen mothers are not responsible enough to care for a child. I am not saying all teen mothers arnt but most lack the ability to assume all the responsibilty that comes along with raising a child. Its the typical sterotype that goes along with everything that is different. I was 18 when I had my first child. I was looked down upon also. But I dont care what other people think. I am a good mother and my son who is now 8 is and has always been well cared for and loved, so who cares what the rest of the world thinks. They should focus on there own problems instead of sinfully judging others.

Answer 3

Because people like to judge others, so that their faults do not seem so bad. I was pregnant at 17 and shortly after married and had my daughter at 18. I just turned 27 and I am still married, I have always taken care of my own children and have never had a mother or anyone else besides my husband help me. All I can tell you is that noone is perfect. I think that having your baby and actually taking care of it is better than aborting it. You are being responsible and taking responsibility for your actions. Besides I couldn't imagine my life without my daughter. Keep your head up and remember that what your child thinks about you is the only opinion that matters. Be the best mom you can be. That will be your ultimate revenge. God bless ya!

Answer 4

I'm a 'grown woman', almost 30yrs old, and I have people judging and looking down at a lot of my choices as a mother. This is a horrible thing for others to do, to judge, but we cant do much to change it. We have to do our best, and ignore the others who seem to think our best isnt good enough. Teen mothers are VERY courageous, and deserve all the support we can give them. In today's world it is the easy way out that most choose, but to raise a child while still so young is certainly not the easy way out. Most of us could have been in the same situation as them.

Answer 5

WELL EVERYHTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON
I MEAN A MISTAKE IS NEVER THE CASE WHEN U GET PREGANT U KNOW WHEN U LAY DOWN U CAN GET PREGNANT SAME WITH AN STD U ALREADY KNOW THE POSSIBLE OUTCOME BUT U CHOOSE TO DO IT THINKING BIRTH CONTROL AND CONDOMS WILL MAKE IT OK
IN AINT NO SUCH THING AS LEGAL AGE TO HAVE A BABY WHEN IT HAPPENS IT HAPPENS JUST MAKE PLANS TO HAVE SOME KIND OF COMMITMENT THE NEXT TIME AROUND BECAUSE ITS HARD OUT HERE.
NO ONE CALLS IT A MISTAKE UNLESS ITS PREGNANCY GOING ON TO SAY WELL NO CHILD IS A MISTAKE
OR GOD SAYS ITS A BLESSING TRUE ENOUGH HE DID
BUT EVERYTHING MAN DOES THAT HE DOES NOT INTEND TO DO IS A MISTAKE NOT IN GOD' EYE BUT FROM MAN'S EYE IT IS SO DONT GO USING GOD'S NAME THEN U FILL ME
AND PEOPLE ARE FOREVER BUMPING THEY GUMS ABOUT SOMETHING UNTIL IT HITS CLOSE TO HOME
I MEAN PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES AND MESS UP BUT THE ONLY TIME U ARE A FAILURE IS WHEN U DONT GET BACK UP
YOUR AGE,YOUR PAST,YOUR STRUGGLES DOES NOT LIMIT OR INFLUENCE THE LOVE U HAVE FOR YO BABY
THATS U AND THATS BUEATIFUL
PEOPLE AINT SH1T THEY TALK BECAUSE THATS ALL THEY KNOW HOW TO DO
THEY TRY TO PUT U DOWN TO BUILD THEM UP BUT THEY A$$ JUST AS BAD IF NOT WORSE OFF THE CHAIN
I MEAN U DO FOR U
AGE AINT NOTHING UNTIL U SLIP UP OR MAKE AND ACCIDENT
THE ONLY THING LEFT TO DO IS LOVE THAT BABY
IGNORE ALL THESE PEOPLE OUT HERE PLACING JUDGMENT BECAUSE YOUR LIFE AND EXPERIENCE IS YOUR FOR A REASON
SO DONT WALK AROUND WITH YOUR HEAD DOWN
HOLDING BACK TEARS
ASHAME I MEAN U ARE THE ONLY WHO HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YO BABY SO EVERYTHING ELSE SOME LAST
HOLD YO HEAD UP
DO WHAT U GOTTA DO FOR THAT BABY AND LET THE TALKERS KEEP TALKING
IT TAKES AN UNHAPPY GUILTY TRIFLIN PERSON TO TRY TO JUDGE ANOTHER PERSON BEHALF

BUT U NOR YOUR BABY IS A MISTAKE
SO IF U LOSE THE FIGH WIN THE WAR BY STANDING UP, TAKING CARE OF YOURS, AND BEING THE BEST MA U CAN BE
BECAUSE LOVE DONT KNOW NO AGE NIETHER DOES THAT BABY

ONLY IGNERENCE ACKNOWLEDGE BEFORE CIRCUMSTANCES AND GOD'S WILL
JUST HAVE SOM KIND OF COMMITMENT NEXT TIME AROUND

CONGRATULATIONS AND
GOOD LUCK ON FINDING AN ANSWER THAT SUITS U
BYE MA

Answer 6

because even though there may be a few that have made a mistake but still have respect for others, the majority will go around with a chip on their shoulder and dare the world to knock it off for them....i swear i'd like to knock a few heads off the little smart asses.....i'll tell you what, i'm a mother of 3 who didnt have my first until i was 21 and married....im 37 today and i still wonder what im doing.!..mine are teens now and i wonder how i got THIS far!....go watch one of those episodes of maury about 12, 13, 14 yr olds wanting and trying to have babies - listen to the attitudes and then tell me why you think this is....ITS ALL ABOUT THE ATTITUDE

Answer 7

Interesting question.....Are you by any chance a teen Mom?

I believe that anyone can make a mistake, but I don't feel sorry for those who repeatedly give birth without a husband. Children need a Father in their lives - one that lives in the home with them and supports them physically, mentally and socially on a daily basis!

Answer 8

It's not just that people think that they're lazy; they're considered to have bad morals because they din't wait at least until the legal age.

I, for one, don't appreciate anyone who has sex irresponsibly or when they aren't ready for a child. If these people (women AND men) can't hold off from having sex (It's really not that hard), then they should at least use protection. Seriously.

Answer 9

I admit I definitely have been accountable of that, yet nonetheless I definitely have appeared down on a great sort of alternative mothers and dads before (not in basic terms teen ones) and its not by way of fact i'm a propose individual or think of they are undesirable mothers and dads. My husband and that i've got had a ton of project conceiving by way of fact I definitely have endometriosis and am genetically disposed for menopause around age 25 (occurred to my mom, aunts, grandma, etc) and that i stay to be a mom, so on occasion when I see the common "teen mom" i'm getting jealous and think of "why do they get a toddler and that i don't?" and that i even tend to recover from excited and think of that when I see those with 7 young ones, or people who're ignoring their young ones or being propose to their young ones. I HATE passing judgment on people, yet on occasion I in basic terms get caught up in the finished ttc element and that i've got faith like every physique gets a toddler yet me. even when I see large mothers and dads I on occasion think of "Psh not effortless. I desire i became them." So thats a proof as to why I definitely have appeared down on teen mothers and dads before (whether technically i'm in basic terms 19 so i'm yet a teenager myself).

Answer 10

i can't answer why because i was 15 when i had my daughter who is now 12 but i can say i feel ya! keep up what your doing things will be rough but as you help your child grow into this wonderful person the people who look down on you and assume what they don't know will matter not ****.