I have bipolar disorder and OCD and Anxiety an di have a little boy... my problem is that I have not quiet accepted my fate as an abnormal mother. I have herad all the stuff about leaving your child in their crib or room when you feel like you are going to loose it so they will be safe I am just having a hard time with it because he gets so upset. I just want to know what you do to contorl your depression and irritation and everything that comes with it and what you do to that helps you and your kids...
2006-10-12 08:17:41 · 12 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I do not want to know about meds okay . I have taken them in the past and i do not enjoy the side affects. I want to know what to do without medication. Just natural stuff. Don't say exercise or eat right or take supplements I know all this just tell me what you do with your kids to help you cope
2006-10-12 12:02:03 · update #1
First you should be sure to get the meds you need....to support that depression - Bi Polar....and the OCD let alone anxiety....
Patience with children is hard enough without any health issues involved. You my dear have a few that will make your life hard..
Get a good support network.....a neighbor, friends...someone so if you are having that bad day...you can walk over to them and hand over that child....they will need to know what is going on with your life and all the health issues...but friends will help, you just have to be sure to ask them...
I wish you luck.....be well....love those children...but love yourself most....be sure you are taken care of!!
2006-10-12 08:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I am debating about having children. I would be in the same place as you. I don't know if I could handle a child. I have a lot of respect for you and I hope that you figure this out. Good Luck.
PS. I see that all these people think that you should be on meds. If your like me then you still have issues even when your on medication. Just because you take medication for depression doesn't mean that you don't experience symptoms periodically. You just have to learn to cope with it.
2006-10-12 08:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by kristina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you become involved in the community. Find mothers groups that you can do activities in and meet other moms. Make sure you get out of your house several days a week and stay in close contact with someone. This way when you feel like your having a hard time you will have someone to help you. I also suggest you take a class on your disorders. This will help you understand how exactly these disorders effect you and give you the best understanding of it. That way you will have the best chances of fighting it at its worst times.
Good Luck
2006-10-12 08:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am a mother who suffers from anxiety/depression/ and OCD. I am taking Zoloft, but yes...sometimes I still get so ill that I feel like I can't deal well as a mother. First let me assure you that you're not alone. There are plenty of us out there. As far as you, make sure there is time for you scheduled during the day. If you like to read, have a manicure, or whatever...make sure you have YOU time. This will benefit you and your child. Yes it is OK to let him cry for a while, but in order for you to deal better get somewhere that you can not hear it for 5 min. Maybe outside on the porch. Catch your breath, and then go back in. This will help. And most of all ask for help. Get help from friends, family, or whomever will. Ask them to keep your child 1 time a week. Go and sit for coffee, or soda...and just sit. Also, read magazines this helps me unwind. Good luck my friend.... you're not a bad mother, hang in there.
2006-10-12 08:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by signforlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not on medication perhaps you need to start some. If you are on medication it's possible that your dosage needs to be adjusted. Check with your physician. It is sometimes difficult to just "leave them" in their crib when they become extremely upset but if you are on the verge of losing it they are really better off there. Sometimes after my 3rd daughter was born and I was suffering from postpartum depression I would really have to focus on "her needs" as in "I feel so sorry for her because she is upset & crying" rather than focusing on "I can't get anything done except hold her". Maybe that will help. I hope you are feeling better soon. Hang in there!
2006-10-12 08:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know a good thing to do is talk to a good friend that you know is there for you tell them your problems let them know how you are feeling maybe they can help you out a bit I have a friend she isn't bipolar but is very depressed all the time, taking meds for it I love talking to her and she calls me all the time cause she says I make her feel better knowing that I am there for her and will listen to whatever she has to say, it relieves her stress, I also have my husbands cousin who has bipolar it is very hard for him to talk to people he doesn't know cause they think he is weired, but he isn't just cause he has something wrong with him and same with you, if you are depressed you should try and talk to someone, if you don't have anyone close to you to talk with and stuff you can e-mail me if you want I love listening to my friends problems and knowing that I help her and make her feel better. Feel Free
2006-10-12 08:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do when you are feeling bad is to not think about the child. Put them in a playpen or their crib and give them a toy and walk off. Don't think about them or you could end up taking your depression out on them. They also would be in another room and wouldn't have to see mom all upset.
2006-10-12 08:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know when my little one was at a stage where she was screaming uncontrollably, I would put her in her stroller and walk around the block. Not Exercise, but just a nice leisurely stroll. Got me out of the house, changed the scenery for both of us and we were able to focus on stuff outside. kinda hard to be flustered when you are pointing out birds and leaves and stuff. also kinda hard to "lose it" when you are outside in public. the fresh air will make you feel better and maybe you could do some deep breathing exercises ( I know I said that dreaded word!) but it may help. Good luck to you.
2006-10-12 13:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're on meds. If not, obviously see a doctor/psych ASAP. Just relax as best you can and enjoy every minute with your child.
2006-10-12 08:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin has this same problem and her doctor put her on medication to help with her problems. Paxil seems to work for her. Check with your doctor.
2006-10-12 08:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lanita H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋