i will be 60 my birthday... my husband passed away i'am not really looking for a husband at the moment. but if i do is it wrong for me to accept a man based on if he can afford to care for me and him? my husband left me well taken care of and i worked all my life now i'am retired i do not feel i should give a man the time of day if he does not have what i already have or morer what do you think ?...[just a question for you!]
2006-10-12 08:13:15 · 15 answers · asked by mishoney 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think it's an excellent way to weed out the gold diggers.
2006-10-12 08:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably you should look back at your life and think about what you have done. Think about why you were created, without any prejudices. Explore, though you have gone past the high time for exploration, but, probably you can still do it, because the Internet itself is a blessing. Information is so easily available, take advantage of that, like you just asked the question.
Why do you need a man now? Maybe, whoever comes in has his eyes set on your wealth, why create problems for yourself? Considering that you don't have any needs to be satisfied.
2006-10-12 15:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by mutmainnah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are selfish, just protecting what your husband left you, and by all rights, he left this to care for you. I don't think you should be thinking of marriage at this point, but you might be sacrificing a really good guy for the sake of one with alot of money. If you are not planning on getting married again, and I don't know why you would, you won't ever have to worry about your money because nobody can take it from you if you are not married. Just date a few guys, enjoy your life, don't worry so much.
2006-10-12 15:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age and by the looks of the social security system of this country this should definitely be a primary concern when choosing a partner. You don't want someone who you will have to support since you are not working anymore you need someone that can definitely provide for you and themselves,since you're well off then is not like they will have to pay all your bills but at least you know that if you needed their economic support that you could get it. It is not being selfish because you do need to put yourself first at times and i feel this is one of those times. I wish you the best... definitely don't let money be the only determinant of whether or not you are going to engage in a relationship with someone since that is not all that matters but aim for someone who can support you.
2006-10-12 15:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You've worked all your life and earned what you have. You've paid your dues. You have been taking care of others your entire life, and it's time to take care of YOU. If it's selfish at all, you deserve to be selfish. You would probably resent a man that needed your financial support.Besides, it's possible to actually LOVE a man with money without having to love him FOR his money. As long as his financial status is not your ONLY criteria for for a relationship, and you are genuinely attracted to him, it's okay in my book.
2006-10-12 15:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if you find someone whom you feel like you can get involved with, money will not matter. But I would make some distinction, and be cautious that someone doesn't take advantage of the gift of money/love that you have been given from your deceased husband. He did these things to also help take care of you, make sure someone respects what you have as much as you do.
2006-10-12 15:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call me a romantic, but I believe in marrying for love at any age, regardless of whether one of you has more or less than the other. Remember back in the days of your youth when many women relied entirely on their husbands for financial support and they stayed home and raised the children? I think you are being materialistic, and if you were truly in love, this wouldn't even be an issue.
2006-10-12 15:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are entitled to live your life exactly as you wish to live it in all areas. At 60, you have the right to chose whatever partner you wish and it is absolutely not selfish to chose someone that you will be happy with and if for you that means a person that has their own finances as you have yours, then so be it!
2006-10-12 15:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by pre-pastor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being selfish, but of course the word selfish can
also be a positive word, meaning to preserve ones self,
wich is perfectly normal and healthy. No offense but I do
believe your to old to be second guessing yourself. You
know what you want and should be strong in your convictions
to get it. You do deserve it and life is to short.
2006-10-12 15:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mark 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to take care of yourself, and you have to make sure he's not a gold-digger. There is nothing wrong with you protecting what is yours.
2006-10-12 15:21:58 · answer #10 · answered by Allison L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋