I recently was communicating with a woman from match.com and wanted to move forward and call her and meet her at Starbucks...recently though she had a death in the family, her cousin died of cancer, she gave me her phone number but should I let her grieve her family member for a few days and then call her? I don't want to rub her the wrong way.
2006-10-12 08:07:38 · 31 answers · asked by sporteguy03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just call her and let her know that you were thinking about her and hope she is doing well. It will mean a lot if she knows this.
2006-10-12 08:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call her just to extend your condolences. Nothing more right now. Just let her know that you're thinking about her and hoping she's ok and if she needs to talk, you're there for her. Don't even THINK about the moving forward part....if you're serious about moving forward with this woman, that should be the furthest thing from your mind right now....her well being should be your formost concern. And I'm sure it will take a lot more than a "few days" for her to grieve....be compassionate and patient.
2006-10-12 08:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and be supportive. Ask her if there's anything you can do. What you shouldn't do is try to move the relationship along until she's good and ready.
Sometimes it's really awful that no-one calls because you've had a death in the family and no-one wants to call and "be normal" or they're afraid they might say the wrong thing. She may be wishing she had someone to talk to... just don't be pushy and everything will be fine.
2006-10-12 08:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just lost my thirteen month old baby a little over a month ago and I kinda understand where you are coming from. If you guys communicated a lot before this happened don't stop now. If anything you showing her that you are there for her may show her that you are someone she can truly count on to be there for her. I know that the guy I have been talking to called and e-mailed me a lot after wards and it made me feel like he really cared about me and the things I was going through. Go ahead give her a call just to let her know that she was on your mind.
2006-10-12 09:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her, be there for her. This could be a tough time for her and she might need someone to be there for her. If she puts you on the back burner while she grieves, take the hint, but odds are if you care about her then be by her side during this tough time. It also depends on how well you know her and how long you've been talking. Your best bet would be to show concern and let her decide whether she wants you for a shoulder to cry on or to hold off until she's done grieving.
2006-10-12 08:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you call her and let her know that you have been thinking about her but want to give her some space to greive her cousin. You can tell her that you are there to listen to her if she has anything she would like to share with you, but you will respect her space if she needs some time.
Women love when men are considerate of thier feelings, and when they are given the opportunity to share them. Just let her know that she is in the driver's seat at this moment and you are willing to give her the time she needs. She may want to spend time with you because she wants to move on...or she may need some time. Let her be the judge. You don't want to miss a good thing!
2006-10-12 08:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont wait if you met her and your trying to get to know her and maybe build a relationship with her call her right away. ask her if there is any thing you can do to help her and the family and she will see that you are a caring and loving person if that what you want her to discover about you. if she gives you the impression that she donot want to be bathered if she has your phone number wait until she calls you and give he some time or if you just have her phone number wait and give her some time when you do decide to call he back a second time and she still gives off the impression that she donot want to be bathered i suggest you move on.
2006-10-12 08:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how close you two have become in the time you have corresponded. If you're tight, show her you care and make the call. If you're not, distance yourself a little and maybe drop her an email to let her know you're there if she needs you. Ultimately your call, my friend, matters of the heart should be decided with the heart. What does your heart tell you to do, what's your gut-feeling? Therein lies the answer! Peace
2006-10-12 08:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by rasputin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how strong of a connection you have made with this woman, but I suggest that you contact her to let her know that you are available at any time (if that is convenient for your schedule) in case she needs to get away from it all. At least at that point she will know you are an option for release if needed but if not she will do what she needs to and get back to you when she is emotionally prepared and over her grieving.
2006-10-12 08:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by sunfiregeetee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should wait a few days but not too long because if she gave you her number then she would like for you to call her. If that was me, I would like for you to call, because I'm sure she would love to have someone to talk to right now and to be there for her. Good Luck!
2006-10-12 08:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by *--Abby xX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a week, then call her, tell her you were concerned and wanted to know if she needs anything or she needs you to do anything.
Depending on how she she sounds you might consider mentioning Starbucks
2006-10-12 08:12:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋