and i am deeply in love with her i mean REALLY in love with her but...i cheated on her i feel like **** but it is just that i am not able to see her as much as i'd like to so there creates a problem this girl told me she likes me an i will not lie i am attacted to her but than i think of my girl plzzzzzzzzzzzz help me out e-mail me if u can
2006-10-12 08:00:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry for the lengthy answer but I felt it I broke it down it might help you understand what I am saying better. If not, oh well I tried...
Is the girl that you cheated with and/or still have the attraction for, is she really worth all the emotional stress that it is causing you due to your relationship with your girlfriend. Is it worth the risk of losing your girlfriend of two years, which could cause drama, emotional suffering, hurt, the pain, anxiety and/or devastion when the cat it out of the bag.
You claim to be deeply in love with your girlfriend and you feel remorse for what you've done, sounds to me like you may want to examine the cause of your distraction (not her beauty) in the first place. At what point in your relationship did you find yourself looking beyond the attraction of this person to the point of execution of infidelity? In my opinion, there are a lot of reasons that couples who are in relationships go astray due to their lack of communication or their inability to cope with problems in their relationship or issues they may have with themselves while in a relationship; hence, cheat on their partner.
At any rate, regardless of reason, should you decide to stay and work things out with your girlfriend or should you decide to leave her, I feel that honesty about the situation is the best practice. Discuss the issues, doubts or concerns that you have/had about your relationship with her and slowly tell her about the infidelity and what led you to infidelity, and apologize to her and reassure her that it will never happen again.. She may/maynot forgive instantly, but remember it takes time to build the trust and you must be patient. She may have some items that you want her to be aware of or want her to work on as well.
Just remember honesty is the best policy. The truth may hurt, it'll set you free but it's the best medicine for everybody concerned.
Not to change the subject but, could it be that that your attraction to the other woman be merely lust? To be honest, if you choose to stay with your girl and you tell her the truth, she forgives you, etc., whose to say that you won't get distracted and stray again. What if the other girl moved closer to you, what would prevent you from seeing her again?
You see what I am saying. Once you start opening those doors with other people outside your relationship, you end stepping in boundaries or territories that are sometimes very difficult to get out. That's where all the emotions come to play, which turn into problems which could get out of control causing stress and anxiety, causing confusion, guilt, shame and pain in others as well as others emotions. Anyway, I'm not here to lecture but merely help you to the best of my ability. I hope that everything works out for you. I'm sure whatever you decide it will all get better with time ....Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2006-10-12 12:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your girl being faithful to you, then should have been able to control yourself. But, apparently you didn't so you need to tell her the truth. Base on what you said about your girlfriend you seem to care for her, so you need to let the girl you cheated with knows that it was just a moment of weakness and that you are in love with your girlfriend. I hope she can forgive you and you guys can work things out.
2006-10-12 08:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Stac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really love the girl you've been with for two years? Did she move? I'm not doubting, you I'm just wondering how you could sleep with someone else if your so much in love with this other girl. You just need to think of where exactly your heart is and keep it there!
2006-10-12 08:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is such a complicated situation...Honestly I understand how it might be hard because if it's a long distance relationship then things get more complicated as people get lonely... your best chance is to tell her the truth and hope that she will understand your situation and forgive you because if you lie to her about it and she finds out then it will be worse....then you'll definitely lose her but now you have a chance to start over with her if you come clean and come to a compromise in the relationship... hope this helps...
2006-10-12 08:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Dude.....gotta say it like it is.
Evidently you are more 'in love' with your d i c k ......
than this lady that you claim to be 'in love' with.
Guys like you are so sad!!!
You have wrecked an awesome relationship because you
aren't mature enough to control your dog instincts.
Too bad for you.
There will come a time in your life when you
will find there are much more important things in your
life than.....
getting it off!!!
Hope she finds out and dumps your azzz!!
Guess what.....you lose!!!
2006-10-12 08:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by COOKIE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know most of the replies will be..........
Youre A Jerk ! Lol
Honestly I would have to agree
there is no good reson to cheat.
Once you have done that there is no going back.
Find someone you can see more often
that way you wont have to cheat.
2006-10-12 08:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to decide who you want to be with. you either need to break off the "committed" relationship with the first girl or tell the second one that you are taken and then don't see her anymore.
you can't have it both ways... and not telling the first girl can be dangerous.. what if the second one has an STD that you may have (unknowingly) passed on to the first? how would you explain that?
2006-10-12 08:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were so in love with her, you would not have cheated. And you would not be trying to excuse it by saying that you don't get to see her that often. I don't think you can even imagine how much this will (or has, does she know yet?) crush her.
2006-10-12 08:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to release the girl till you are done with others for a while, then see if you can go back to the girl later....if she is available, if not, move on to the next
2006-10-12 08:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by chastityelizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU REALLY LOVE THE GIRL YOU'VE BEEN DATING, YOU HAVE TO CUT THE OTHER OFF, TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND THAT YOU MISS SPENDING TIME WITH HER AND SEE IF YOU TWO CAN WORK SOMETHING OUT, NEVER CHEAT!!!! IT CAN MESS SOMEONE UP IN THE END AND NO ONE WANTS THAT AT ALL.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2006-10-12 08:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by ke ke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋