Okay, I was thinking of asking a girl out who's in my American Lit Class (I'm a freshman in college btw). The only interaction we have is in and around class, so if i were to ask her out, it would be totally out of the blue. But girls, this is how i was thinking of approaching it.
Me: Hey Kristian (the girl)
Her: She turns and looks
Me: If I were to ask if you'd like to to a movie sat., what would you say?
Her: If she says yes, then I'd set it up.
If she says no, then I'd say, alright, I wont ask then.
Would this work? I thought it was pretty clever myself.
Another thing. One of my guy friends said that you can tell that a girl is interested in you b/c of signals she gives out. Do you know what the heck he's talking about? If so, what signals?
Thanks
2006-10-12 07:55:26 · 8 answers · asked by packerswes4 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meant go to the movies, not to to the movies. stupid me.
2006-10-12 07:56:09 · update #1
of course there's certain signals.. :) does she smile at you, laugh at all your jokes (no matter how stupid), toss her hair "accidentally" in your face if you sit behind her (i used to do this.. my hair smells good, i wanted him to know it lol!), always seem eager to talk to you, touch you casually while you're talking, etc.?
if i were you, i would use a similar approach to what you suggested, but i'd add a bit of confidence to it. you sound like a scared little mouse, giving her the power. "uhm.. so uhm.. what would you say.. if uhm.. maybe i were to.. uhm.. like ask you out?" and if she says no, you're just going to shy away and say "uhm.. okay.. nevermind.. wont ask then.. sorry to bother you" and slither back to your desk? NO WAY! lol
you are a confident handsome well spoken young man, you need to tap kristian on the shoulder and say,
"hey kristian, have you seen (insert movie here, i suggest texas chainsaw) yet?"
"oh yes i have/oh no i haven't"
"oh you have? was it good?"
let her talk to you about it, then say,
"yeah well, i was thinking about going to see (insert backup movie here, i suggest the illusionist) on saturday, would you like to go?"
or, if she says no to the first one, "yeah well, the first one was so good i cant wait to see this one.. i was thinking about going on saturday, would you like to go with me?"
anyway the conversation goes, make sure you exude confidence, girls love that. you dont have to be a dick, just be yourself, you seem very sweet. if shes interested she will say yes, if shes not she will say no. if shes interested, just be yourself on the date, if shes not interested then oh well.. how about that cute girl that sits next to you in math? :) :)
good luck handsome, youll do fine!
2006-10-12 08:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by koifox_104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she is interested in you any approach you take will work. If she isn't it wont matter. I cant imagine too many guys I went out with only for the clever pick up line. So go for it. As far as the signals, some girls play with their hair when they talk to you, it's about body language, do they lean toward you when they talk (means they are into you), cross their legs toward you (that is better than away), are their arms folded (that is more closed off) look toward you, eye contact. What does the body say. BTW movies aren't a good 1st date, you dont get to talk much. you wont know anymore about her afterward then you did before. try an activity. go carts, paint balling, horseback riding, zoo. anything where it's quiet and you can talk too.
2006-10-12 08:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by singleagain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good but don't just say do you want to go to a movie, say the exact movie YOU want to see and see her reaction and then say after ya'll talk for a few min.'s then say we should see it together. Btw it is hard to tell w/ the signals thing ur friend was talking about cause all chicks are diff., Like a guy prolly wouldnt know it if I liked him cause I don't play with my hair or anything. Look for eye contact though and if she smiles alot when ur around her.
2006-10-12 08:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off to see if she is interested try getting close to her and into her personal space (if she is not interested she will move away but if she is interested she won't mind). Also you can try meeting up with her for lunch or something because there is more opportunities to talk over lunch than while you are at a movie.
2006-10-12 08:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by purple122988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good idea... As far as signals.. Hmm.. Each girl is different... But f she smiles a lof when she is around is a good sign that she's interested, or if she approaches you to talk is another good sign... Just tell her what you have planned and see what she says... good luck
2006-10-12 08:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, what you plan to say it's OK. about the signals those change in every person you have to know a person to understand her or his signals, maybe is a person who express everything with her eyes or can be the hands, you have to start to pay attention to her movements in order to know her.
2006-10-12 08:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Ingrid D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 4 it, what have u gotto lose, even if she says no you'll have made her smile and who nos what'll happen in the future
good luck x
2006-10-12 07:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by kentkat666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will work and she will find it flirty, so she will probably want to go.
2006-10-12 07:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋