both my parents are remarried. who do we put at the top table and what seating arrangements do we have. any help would be much appreciated. thank you.
2006-10-12 07:52:05 · 45 answers · asked by kenoneill28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ok been involved in similar problem - You are not going to be able to please everyone - someone is bound to say Im not going if he/shes going - you will go crazy if you try to play this game. Start as you mean to go on - explain to all concerned that you have invited everyone to the wedding that your parents only will be at the top table with you and their partners will be close by (if you have room for partner brilliant but you may not want partners as well, its your wedding) and you are not open to negotiate about this as it has already been organised. Remember its your wedding, not theirs, dont be blackmailed, if anyone refuses to play ball - simply state that is completely up to them but you have made arrangements that cant be changed. Good luck and enjoy YOUR DAY.
2006-10-12 08:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi oh we have this problem also, as i dont have any grand parents so i can put nearly all my family on the top table, but as for my fiancees side it gets complecated. At the end of the day its up to you who you have sitting on the top table. What we have dont is left the Step parents off the top table, So we have his dad and his mum on the top table and the grandparents, best man and the made of hounour. We have just seated everyone else like sept mums and dads neares to the top table as we can. If there is to much agro and arguments. Just you and the groom sit one the top table and noone else then in between meals circulate to talk to people. I think you can have the top table as long as you want so have a think about it and decide.
2006-10-13 07:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done a ton of weddings with brides with the same problem as yours. It's not very often that the parents sit at the head table. Usually it's reserved for the couple and their wedding party. Then give each of your parent's there own table to host with there friends and family members. Try as much as possible to put all of the parents tables an equal distance from the head table as possible and make sure that the servers serve those tables first (after the head table of course.)
Good luck and Happy Planning!
Crystal
2006-10-12 12:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by www.crystalweddings.ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggestion: Put you, your Husband, and both of your attendants at the “Head Table” then put everyone else with people they like. Don’t worry so much about the formality. If you think someone will get there feelings hurt because they are at Table #2 instead of #1 – try naming the tables instead. My husband and I used the names of our favorite restaurants as the names of our tables. It was fun, and no one cared what table they were at. Plus, ask who they want to sit with. My family all wanted to sit with other friends not relatives. So the seating was a lot easier after I asked the question!
Hope all goes well!
2006-10-12 07:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by secki007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The top table is reserved for you and your bridal party. The seating arrangement depends on the number of seats at each table. The best way to seat these parents is to keep them seperate if they do not get along.
2006-10-12 07:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a common dilemma, but I can tell you the easiest solution (as a few other posters have pointed out) is to have the reserved tables at the front of the room rather than have them seated at the head table... the head table is usually the bride and groom and their attendants, that is all. Some couples feel that if their attendants have significant others they don't want to take them from their family/date anyway so they even opt for a "sweetheart table" a table for JUST the bride and groom). It isn't as if you're at the tables long anyway, most people drift throughout a reception and do alot of dancing
So lay it out like this...
Head Table or Sweetheart Table
Reserved Father of the Bride family table (this would include father of the bride and step mother and any CLOSE relatives of yours on his side)
Reserved Parents of the Groom family table (this would include the parents of the groom and any CLOSE family of his, grandmother, his siblings, etc)
Reserved Mother of the Bride family table (this would include mother of the bride and step father and any CLOSE relatives of yours on her side)
Then if you opt for a sweetheart table instead of a "head table" have another reserved table for your wedding party and their families/dates.
Seating arrangement shouldn't be needed, only "reserved for family of
Congrats on your engagement.
If you need further help feel free to email me and I will do my best to assist you.
2006-10-12 08:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The top table is for your wedding party - maid of honer, best man, attendants, etc....both my parents had re married and we had open seating other then the head table so everyone sat where they felt comfortable and no one was forced to sit near someone they didn't want to sit near and there was no "playing favorites" by assigning family tables or anything like that
2006-10-12 08:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by ztabicc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I completely skipped this problem by not assigning seats to anyone at our wedding reception (about 140 people). Everyone sits wherever they want to anyway. He and I sat alone at a table in the middle of all our guest tables. We also had a dessert reception where everyone could just fill a plate as they wished instead of a sit down meal. It avoided a lot of hassle and it turned out to be a wonderful evening!
2006-10-12 08:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maid 6
man 6
maid 4
man 4
maid 2
man 2
father of the bride
mother of the groom
bride
groom
mother of the bride
father of the groom
best man 1
maid of honor 1
man 3
maid 3
man 5
maid 5
seat the step-parents, step- siblings, brothers, sisters, step-grand-parents, grand-parents, ring bearer, and flower-girl(s) at the two, three, or four tables closest to the wedding parties main table.
I have the same problem with my family so I've been planning the seating arrangments of my future wedding for some time.
just seat the ex-s as far from one another as possible and keep them away from the alchohol.
2006-10-12 11:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kuraimizu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Place your Mother and Father at the head table. Dad's wife can be placed with relatives from his side, and Moms husband sits at a family table from her side of the family. An easier way is to have just the Wedding Party at the Head Table.
2006-10-12 07:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by roeskats 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋