ok if your boyfriend that's now your EX- boyfriend had been cheating on you, and during that time it was occuring his best friend started hanging out with you all the time, keeping u company, sharing his thoughts with you. well basically trying to get at you or at least let you know how he feels. so after you break up w/the ex, he cuts off his friendship with your ex- boyfriend and decides to full court press you to start dating him. well i suppose my question is this, is it wrong to start dating your ex's old best friend? i mean not out of spite or anything malicious, you and him just get along real well, theres no fighting or jelousy or anything like the old relationship i had with my ex. i mean it's not right after we broke up i have stalled him for like 5 months untill i felt ready and i'm ready now. is it a wrong thing to do? the only problem is that the ex keeps showing up uninvited just to make his old friend pissed, and things uncomfortable. please any ideas?
2006-10-12 07:49:49 · 24 answers · asked by CHERRYSCION 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have given it time and thought and feel this is right for you, then I dont think it would be wrong at all.... the ex is just that , and ex... YOU did not go after the other guy, he came to you... and love has no eyes... from what you have written, I believe enough time has passed so that you know what you want.... if there are issues, they are between the new and the old.. they need to work it out... and besides, if the ex cheated, he is NOT worthy of your thoughts... he messed up and he gave up the relationship, not you......... God bless
2006-10-12 07:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say .............. go for it. You and this guy really like eachother, and your ex is the one that was stupid and lost out. When your ex shows up uninvited, don't answer the door........ just let him knock until he goes away.......... he will get the hint. And if that makes you both uncomfortable....... go out somewhere. To a park or to take a trip and go camping one weekend. But when the ex shows up, don't answer the door, just act like you aren't there. If he sees you and accusses you of being home, just shrug your shoulders and move on........ don't stick around and make conversation. I hope this has helped. Blessed be.........
2006-10-12 08:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it at all. He's your ex and he's not part of your life now so you have every right to move on. If your ex wont leave the friend alone threaten to get a restraining order and do it if he still wont stop.
2006-10-12 07:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let me check the RULE BOOK on this one. Yup it's ok to date a friend of your ex. there's nothing in the rule book that says you can't. (Although there's a lot of people who think the opposite) As far as your ex showing up & causing friction with your new BF is concerned, well that's between the guys to work out. If you stay out of it, then you shouldn't run into any problems with them.
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2006-10-12 07:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy broke his friendship with your ex and it's been 5 months and you feel you are ready, then go for it. as for the ex you need to tell him to back off and if it becomes serious get a restraining order or something. good luck!
2006-10-12 07:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're getting along fine does not mean you're not getting along fine with your other friends. I would keep it as friendship. Would you date your best friend's ex ? Besides, you don't know if your ex-bf's friend nudged him out on purpose to get what he wants. What kind of future would you have together ?
2006-10-12 07:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by mmmporg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you're going for your ex's friend just because he's there. Why should you? Wouldn't it be easier for everyone if you just chose to look elsewhere? Plenty of guys to go around. You don't have any obligations to your ex ofcourse, but you'd have to bump into him if you'd start dating his friend and all, and it'd just bring a lot of baggage to your relationship. So look around, you got a lot of guys interested in you and you don't have to limit yourself to bad choices. In the end its all about you, what's best for you, what do you want?
2006-10-12 07:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by Bastard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been through it, don't do it. Seriously. Should it not end up ahppily ever after (and most marriages don't do that anymore), it makes your past very embarrassing and hard to explain to the next man in your life. Or, it's a secret that eats at your insides. Not a good look.
2006-10-12 07:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All is fair in love and war.
If you want to go out with him do it, you don't owe anything to the ex. You and he don't have any ties anymore.
You would be living out of the past, not doing something now for fear of hurting someone that meant something back then.
You see a chance at happiness GO FOR IT.
2006-10-12 07:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by eric s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋